Why I’m out of the closet

Posted on February 20, 2012
Filed Under Culture, occult culture | 9 Comments

Since I was eighteen I’ve been out of the closet when it comes to my magical work, and chosen lifestyle. That choice was forced on me initially when a friend’s family outed me to my mom, but that situation made me realize that hiding my beliefs was denying who I am and was also helping to create an environment of intolerance.

Recently I have re come out of the closet. I’ve been rebranding my core business and in the process of doing that, I’ve realized that I’d hidden part of myself away to fit in, and it didn’t make me feel good, because not only was it denying a past choice I’d made, but because it wasn’t realistic. If you search for me on Google, you’ll find evidence that I’m an occultist fairly quickly.

Re-coming out the closet has been good for me. I feel like I’m in touch with a part of myself that I’d buried away and allowed to be buried. I’m not listening to fears or worries because I realize that if people choose to not do business with me because of my choices its actually better for me.

I’m out of the closet because I’m proud to be an occultist. I’m proud to be myself. There’s no shame in my choices and the intolerance of others is not something I will support by choosing to hide myself for their benefit. If I make that choice I am denying an essential part of who I am and denying my community as well.

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lughnagh
lughnagh

I've come to this crossroads too. Even though my magickal blog is under "Lughnagh" (as is this account), it's not too hard to trace it back to me. But yeah...I used to completely hide the fact that I pray to Egyptian gods and practiced magic, but now it's just a thing I don't bring up. If someone asks, I don't dodge the question, but I don't wear a sign, either. I've never been one who liked attention, though.Overall, I think it's a good choice. For me, I'm a pretty "normal" guy, so when people realize that I am pagan and that I practice magic, it ends up not being the thing that defines me to them, no more than their religion defines them. (Of course, you do run into those who will not let you forget their religion...)

Mike Sententia
Mike Sententia

One of the things I've been thinking about is how to explain my work to non-mages, to create a positive interesting discussion. Any thoughts on that?

Magicexperiment
Magicexperiment moderator

@lughnagh It's a good approach to take. I don't bring it up either, but if people ask, I'm honest.

Magicexperiment
Magicexperiment moderator

@Mike Sententia Two approaches. De-magic the talk, in other words don't use magical jargon. The problem is are you really talking magic at that point? The second approach is to make sure they know you aren't prostelyzing them. The issue their is knee jerk reactions. It can be pretty tricky.

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