The ask for help spell

One of the most powerful and under utilized spells in the world is the ask for help spell. In this world of rugged individualism the default is to try and figure everything out yourself. That only gets you so far, and often not far enough. Yet many people will resist asking for help, thinking it’s a weakness, when in fact it is a strength.

I could share a number of reasons why this is so hard, but what I really want to share with you is how asking for help can transform your life and open the doors of possibility.

Before we get to that though I want you to imagine that you’re in a grocery store. You’re looking for something particular, but no matter how much you look you can’t find it. You see a grocery store clerk nearby, but you don’t ask for help.

How much time would you save if you asked the grocery store clerk to help you?

How much energy, thought and emotion would be freed up if you got help and found that item you were looking for?

This is a simple example, yet most people won’t ask for help in the grocery store, determined to find that one item on their own, even though there are people working at the store who can easily help and in the process save some time and energy for more important things.

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The power of help

Help is a magical experience. If I ask for help a number of things can happen:

• I can get the result I needed to ask help for.

• I get witnessed by someone else.

• I give someone the opportunity to be of service to me.

And I can also help other people. Help is an expansion of abundance and generosity. When I help someone else a number of things can happen:

• I feel a connection with the person I helped.

• I experience the generosity of giving and being of service.

• I support another person in a moment where they needed something.

The giving and receiving of help doesn’t have to be earth shattering. It often isn’t. The challenge for more people is asking for and receiving help. It often feels more comfortable to give help, whereas asking for help…that feels vulnerable, even though, if anything asking for help is a sign of strength.

Asking for help feels so vulnerable because we’re admitting that we don’t have it all figured out. We’re admitting that we can’t do something on our own. And in a hyper individualistic society, the emphasis is having it all figured because there’s a deep seated distrust of other people embedded in the individualism.

Yet here’s something to really consider: Every time you cast a magical spell or do a spirit working, you are asking for help.

I get that you might not frame it that way. Many people won’t. A lot of people practice magic because they want a sense of control over their environment. They want to call in results that transform life on their terms. But if you practice magic long enough you invariably discover that magic happens on its own terms. It will often bring in unexpected variables and synchronicities and other strangeness that demonstrates that the result happens in a way that calls for you to receive it outside of your expectations and need to be in control.

If we look at magic from the perspective of asking for help it opens up some very interesting possibilities that can be worked with, and open some fascinating doors into new realities.

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The Ask for Help Spell - an Experiment in Manifestation

I journal everyday, but not in the way you might think. My journal is a series of sentence prompts. One example is: “The story I’m telling myself today is…” I write out the story of the day. It’s a hypersigil for the day, with the story crafted in one or two sentences to shape my identity for that day.

At the end of July I added a new prompt, I need help with. I was inspired to add it because I realized that I needed help with asking for help and I figured I’d start by writing down what I needed help with. I’m glad I did, because it became a spell in its own right.

Each day I write something I need help with. Sometimes I need help with writing emails or learning a technology. Sometimes I need help with my home or having a difficult conversation. Whatever it is I need help with, I write it out. The act of writing it is an acknowledgement I need and it strengthens my ability to ask for that help.

But here’s where things have gotten interesting…

I started this experiment and I have had help show up, often without me asking for it directly. For instance, my neighbor recently offered to prune a set of bushes in my yard. I needed help with that bush and I knew something needed to be done about it. He offered to take care of it for me, and then came over with a friend and pruned the bush, for free. It made him happy to do it, for a couple different reasons and I got to practice receiving.

When I made the decision to make a room in my house an Air Bnb room, I got more help. My Sifu came over one day and took a look at my house and made some recommendations to me about how I could take better care of the house. He’s got an extensive background construction so I took in everything he shared and appreciated the advice and help.

I have gotten help in some other areas of my life. Opportunities have shown up, seemingly out of the blue, linked to what I’m asking for help around. And each time the help has arrived I’ve found myself marveling at what comes my way and how it shows up.

This is profoundly simple magic. You don’t have to burn a candle, incense or do a ritual at an appointed time. There’s no need to cast a circle, dress up in witchy bling or call on spirits.

All you have to do is write a sentence each day expressing what you need help with. And then let it go and let the help come in.

Now some of you will be tempted to skip doing this. It’s too easy, you might think or too simple, but asking for help isn’t that easy, or simple. It really does require a flex of yourself and an acknowledgement that you need help.

Yet it really will strengthen you and your connection with magic.

Ask for help and let yourself receive all the strange and wonderful ways it can happen.

In perfectly magical space and time,

Taylor

P.S. If you found this article helpful, I have a book The Magic of Writing, which explores how to work with writing as a magical process and spell weaving for creating realities.

You can get it as a paperback or an e-book, directly from me, or online retailers.

A Tarot Spread for Mapping your Desires

I recently developed the Desire Alchemy Tarot Spread. This is a tarot spread that you can use to help you identify a desire you have as well as what is blocking that desire from manifesting.

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The picture above shows an example of the spread. I’m going to walk you through how the basics of the spread so you can try it out with your own divination reading.

Center card - Your desire

Card across the center card - What’s blocking your desire.

Card below desire card - the Unconscious motivation for your desire.

Card to the left of the desire - Your hope for the desire.

Card to the right of the desire - Your fear of achieving the desire

Left and right card above desire - The actions you need to take to turn your desire into a result

Outcome card at the top - what the result can be if you take action.

The Divination of Desire

Most of the time people get divination readings because they want to explore the possibilities and opportunities that are available to them or figure out how to respond to a situation.

But sometimes the best read is where you explore what you want, and why you aren’t getting it. I designed this spread to help you do exactly that.

Pick out a desire, something you’ve wanted, but never quite gotten. You’ll do a reading about this desire to find out what’s really stopping you from turning it into a reality.

This spread helps you discover the internal and external blockers that are preventing your desire from manifesting. Once you understand what’s getting in your way, the spread will also show you what actions you need to take to resolve the blocks and create the results.

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A practical example of how it works

In the picture above, the Sun card is the Desire.

Lying on top of it is 7 of Wands, a feeling of being overwhelmed and taking on too much, which is obscuring your light.

Below it is the 5 of wands, which is an unconscious motivation of feeling scattered and trying to get multiple projects done.

The card to the left of The Sun is the Wheel of Fortune, which shows the hope that you’ll finally achieve success.

The card to the Right of The Sun is the 5 of Pentacles, which is a fear of being successful and the grief carried around not reach success.

The left and right cards above Desire card show you how to resolve the block. In this case we have the four of Wands on the left, which suggests laying down some of the wands so you can focus on the task at hand. The card on the right is the four of cups and it shows the importance of allowing the grief to come through and be expressed instead of suppressing it. This is how the lessons are learned.

Then we have the outcome card, which is the 7 of pentacles. This shows that your efforts will start producing results if you do do the work of focusing and releasing. Your desire now has a path to become a reality.

This is an example reading I did. You can use this tarot spread to do your own reading around a desire.

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Wanting without Shame - Alchemize your desire into Reality

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In Wanting without Shame, we work with desire as magical material.

Desire is not just a personal preference.

Desire is orientation.

It is the current beneath intention, ritual, spellcraft, spirit work, creative work, business, visibility, money, pleasure, devotion, and becoming.

In Wanting Without Shame, we invite you to come play so you can:

• Clarify the desire underneath your magical intentions, instead of casting from obligation, confusion, or “should.”

• Identify the old selves that distort what you think you want: the self other people imagine you to be, the past self still running old spells, the idealized self chasing comparison, and the present self who can actually cast.

• Work with shame, shadow, envy, greed, pride, lust, wrath, sloth, and hunger as information instead of contamination.

• Use Love and Loathe tracking as magical data for your practice, business, relationships, rituals, offerings, and creative life.

• Create Desire Statements that function as magical source code for spellwork, spirit petitions, sigils, business direction, offerings, and life choices.

Turn your desires into reality clearly and cleanly.

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Hot takes on shame, shadow & the magic of desires

If you’ve ever felt conflicted about your desire, or felt like you wanted something and yet found some way to sabotage it, you’re going to want to watch this episode of the Magical Experiments podcast.

Sheena and I share 15 hot takes on shame, shadow and the magic of desire and along the way explore:

• How shame and fear can small you and contain your magic.

• What love and loathing have to do with identifying your desires.

• How to use the deadly sins as information instead of as shaming.

And if what we shares lands with you, then you’ll want to join us for our upcoming live workshop on September 19th:

Wanting without Shame - Alchemize your desire into Reality

In Wanting without Shame, we work with desire as magical material.

Desire is not just a personal preference.

Desire is orientation.

It is the current beneath intention, ritual, spellcraft, spirit work, creative work, business, visibility, money, pleasure, devotion, and becoming.

In Wanting Without Shame, we invite you to come play so you can:

• Clarify the desire underneath your magical intentions, instead of casting from obligation, confusion, or “should.”

• Identify the old selves that distort what you think you want: the self other people imagine you to be, the past self still running old spells, the idealized self chasing comparison, and the present self who can actually cast.

• Work with shame, shadow, envy, greed, pride, lust, wrath, sloth, and hunger as information instead of contamination.

• Use Love and Loathe tracking as magical data for your practice, business, relationships, rituals, offerings, and creative life.

• Create Desire Statements that function as magical source code for spellwork, spirit petitions, sigils, business direction, offerings, and life choices.

Turn your desires into reality clearly and cleanly.

A Strategic Lens with Magic -

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In my previous article, I talked about the importance of taking a 2X approach to magic instead of a 10X approach to magic. One of the reasons that I take this approach is that I am applying a strategic lens to the magical work that I am doing as it applies to my overall life.

For many people, magic is reactive. They apply magic in the moment to fix a problem that has arisen in their life or to trigger a short-term reaction that helps them reach a desired result. What is not often applied is a strategic lens that examines what the consequences of achieving that result will be or how achieving the result will affect you down the line. This lack of foresight or planning can often create unintended effects that cause you to scramble in your life. You may end up doing more magic in order to resolve the consequences that have occurred because you didn’t take the time to fully map out what you really wanted, not just in the short term, but for the long term.

Magic never happens in a void. It is always situational, based on the context of our lives and the events, people, and places that are present. Yet although it is situational and based on the context of the moment, we can still apply magic with a long-term lens that helps us design our lives.

An Exercise in Long Term Planning

I want you to imagine, as an exercise, yourself as an old person. You're on your deathbed. What kind of experiences has that person had? What kind of life has that person led?

If you were to ask that person a question, one of the best questions that you could ask is: "What is it that you want me to do that you wish you had done?" This question creates a very intentional awareness of your life that prompts you to explore what you actually want for yourself, not just in the short term but for your overall life. For instance, do you want to live in a home that you purchased? If so, that's a long-term decision.

Putting the mortgage payments aside, One of the things that you may want to think about with that home is how long you would want to live there and what you would need to do in order to make sure that that home is livable as you get older.

A strategic approach to magic looks at how magic can be applied to help you achieve the outcome that you want while also considering the variables that are inevitably going to occur in your life, such as getting older. Although we can never know the full extent of how our lives will unfold, what we can do is apply strategic planning to our lives in order to create the desired outcome we want to live.

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Why we don’t think of the long term

The reason many people don’t focus on the long-term application of magic is because they’re focused on the here and now. It makes sense because that’s what we’re living with. We’re living in the here and now, but the reality is you’re likely going to get older. You’re likely to have changes in your life that affect your ability to do certain things, and you also want to think about your future not just in terms of ease and comfort but in terms of the overall quality of your life.

The lack of a strategic lens in Magic is reflective of the lack of a strategic lens in your overall life. Many people live paycheck to paycheck and in all fairness a lot of this is because the standard of living and the cost of being able to afford things is pretty high. Nonetheless, one of the things that a person can do is choose to save some money. Even if you were to save $5 or $10 a month, each month, that is going to be that much more money that you have when you need it for down the line or if you have an emergency situation.

A similar approach to magic can be applied where you start creating the circumstances in your life that favor you for both the short-term and the long-term moments. This means that you can do magical work to help you achieve a short-term outcome and at the same time you can ask yourself how this will help you achieve a long-term outcome, such as more financial stability or a high quality of life even when you’re older.

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When my Magical Practice became Strategic

I didn’t always have a long-term perspective when it came to magical work. I did a lot of short-term magic, especially in my teenage years and 20s and early 30s. My main focus was on solving the immediate problem in front of me. This is something which is typical for a lot of people. What we see in front of us is the most pressing problem so that’s what we apply magic to.

I began to change my focus to the long term when I started to see how the choices I was making in the short term were nonetheless having an impact on my life down the line.

I realized that as long as I was making short-term decisions, I wasn’t effectively planning for the rest of my life. I knew that it was important to respond to the immediate situation but I began thinking about how that response would also play out in the long term.

What really brought this home for me was getting divorced in my early 40s and realizing that I was starting all over with my life. I couldn’t afford to make short-term decisions anymore. I needed to be thinking about what was going to happen to me down the line and what I was going to do to make sure that I took care of myself.

The truth I’ve also come to recognize is that even when I plan for the long-term strategy, there are going to be short-term experiences that will change what the plan is. This is true for all of us. You can plan for the long term and nonetheless have a variable enter into your life that changes the equation dynamically. For instance you meet somebody and that person changes the entire direction of your life because you choose to be with that person and you want to see where things will go. That can change your plan significantly.

The key approach that you want to take with long-term magic is that you consider the direction of your life and you plan for those variables. If someone comes into your life, for example, you ask yourself: Does this person match my values? Does this person fit in my life in the long term not just in the short term? This kind of thinking can seem a little bit cold and clinical but it’s really designed to get you to think very carefully about your choices, so that regardless of what happens you are taking care of yourself, your life and your legacy.

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Why we need ritual with magic: A reflection on what ritual brings to our body and being

It was hot and bright day out, the kind of day that perfectly fits the Summer Solstice. It was close to noon. I got up from my computer and started collecting the materials I needed for my impromptu Solstice day ritual.

It had been a little while since I had done a proper magical ritual. I cast spells and do workings, but I don’t always add the formal ritual to those workings. But it had been awhile and I felt a deep longing for ritual burn with me. Today deserved something formalized for the sake of what I was calling in and for myself.

I pulled out a box of crayons and a small square piece of paper. I grabbed my rod, my drum and its beater and I went outside to my backyard.

I set everything on the ground other than my rod. I paced a circle calling in the directions, elements and spirits. I got close to the ground and called in mama. I raised my rod to the sky and called in the cosmos. I called in the Sun in all its forms and names that I know.

After setting the space and the time, I sat on the ground and I colored my own representation of the sun. Once I was done, I stood up and held my little sun to the sky and asked THE Sun if it would grant a bit of its light so I could keep that light for the winter Solstice to help the sun begin its journey back from the long night. Then I beat a drum as I walked in a circle and I did an impromptu chant as an offering to the sun.

I closed the ritual and thanked the spirits, the sun, the land and then I put my drawing into my ritual box. And afterwards I thought to myself, I really needed this.

Why we need ritual

I talk a lot about practical magic. I’ve developed my fair share of practical magic techniques and for the most part they don’t require ritual. They require focused attention, and ritual can be one way to accomplish that, but there are other ways as well.

Yet there is something to ritual that is essential to the lived experience of being a human. Ritual gets us out of our heads, into our bodies, and connected to something deeper and wider than all of us.

I don’t do formal ritual all of the time. I reserve it for specific occasions or when it feels called for. I can’t deny though how it lands in me. There’s a reason we crave ritual, in general. Ritual provides meaning and connection in a world that often feels disconnected.

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What stops people from doing ritual

I think what stops people from doing ritual is the perception that ritual is complicated. And certainly it can be complicated, but it doesn’t have to be.

I didn’t get dressed in a fancy outfit or pull out a bunch of ritual bling for my solstice ritual. I brought exactly what I needed and nothing more. And I brought one other essential element: My presence.

When I do a ritual, the phone stays out of the circle. When I do a ritual, the focus is on the ritual itself and whoever I’m doing the ritual with. I give myself over to the ritual and that creates the magic of the ritual.

The effect it has on my body and being is really fascinating because there is this felt sense of relaxation that comes through as I do the ritual. The ritual creates an intimate connection between myself and what is called in. There is presence and energy that lands through the entire space of the ritual.

The next time you decide to incorporate ritual into your magic, keep it simple. The focus isn’t on all the objects. It’s on using what’s needed to make the contact come alive. Every gesture, every word, and every tool serves the purpose of ritual. Anything that doesn’t serve the purpose is extraneous and unneeded.

Conclusion

I beat the drum and I came up with words in the moment praising both the sun and the dark. The words weren’t planned. I just knew they were the right words. I let the ritual work through me and I trusted what it brought me.

It brought me to the Sun. It brought me to the Dark. It brought me to the union of all things and in the process it brought me to myself. The best rituals do that. They bring you back to the self that you didn’t even know you were out of touch with.

There are no shortcuts in magic (or in life)

Every so often I get requests where a person asks me to help them obtain special powers through magic. In this episode of the magical experiments podcast I lay down the hard truth that there are no short cuts in magic and life and share some of my experiences and stories learning this truth. You’ll also learn why experience is the best teacher and how to let go of unrealistic expectations.

Can you influence peoples' minds with magic

What is the connection between telepathy, empathy, ESP and magic? In this episode of the magical experiments podcast I explore that question and share some of my own experiences around psychic perception and magical work. I also discuss the ethics that can be involved in this kind of work.

Combat and Protection Magic

Can I get Life Changing Results with Magic?

I was recently asked if it was possible to get life changing results with magic. In my latest episode of the magical experiments podcast I answer that question and offer a few of my own:

What is a result?

What makes a result life changing?

What needs to change about your life to make a result stick?

Magical Experiments Podcast : Can I do multiple types of magic?

In the Magical Experiments Facebook group I was recently asked the following question: “Is it okay to do different types of magick at the same time, for example I am delving into PGM, Heptameron, and working with a deity (hekate)?”

In the latest episode of the magical experiments podcast I answer this question and share some thoughts on the advantages and disadvantages of working with different types or systems of magic at the same time.

Magical Experiments Podcast: Is Magic a Quick Fix Solution?

Have you ever tried to magic your way out of a problem?

In this podcast episode I answer the question: Why do people think magic is a quick fix/solution to “mundane”problems, or issues that require “mundane” work.

I also explore the connection between the “mundane” world and magic and show that any division between the two is arbitrary and then share examples of how to marry the mundane to the magical.

Magical Experiments Podcast: Return to Sender Experiment

Sometimes the best response to a situation is to call back what belongs to you, while also returning what doesn’t belong to you. I recently decided to do a return to sender working, using a meditation shared by a friend. I have been working with it a few days and I have noticed some experiences that I have found useful. I share my thoughts on this work in the latest episode of the magical experiments process.

How grounding yourself improves your magic

When you think of the word grounding, what do you think of? What I think of when I consider grounding is the importance of being in presence in the moment I am in a way that connects me across all the levels of my being: Physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Let’s considered what grounded means in regards to each of these states of being.

Physically grounding yourself means taking care of your physical needs. For example, you should be making sure you get enough sleep each night. You also want to make sure your eating healthy food, moderating your use of substances and getting exercise each day. When you are grounded physically, you are also able to listen to your body, feel into the sensations it provides you and as a result adjust your lifestyle. A grounded person, physically is someone at peak health.

An emotionally grounded person is a person who is able to feel their emotions and be aware of them without reacting to them. They know that their emotions aren’t their identity. They are experiences the person is having. They provide valuable information that the person can use to be present to the situation they are in and at the same time the emotions don’t overwhelm the person. An emotionally grounded person is able to open to their sensitive heart and be fully present in a way that turns the emotions into energy for the situation and for the magic.

A mentally grounded person is someone who is aware of their thoughts, but doesn’t let their thoughts control them. They can be mindfully aware of their thoughts and consider them carefully without indulging in the monkey mind awareness that causes the mind to go in circles and circles. A person who is grounded mentally has clarity of thought and awareness and applies that clarity to help them make sound decisions.

A spiritually grounded person is in touch with their spiritual energies and with their allies. They are connected to the spirits around them, but don’t let that connection overwhelm them. They are able to see through the veil of time, but don’t let their oracular vision fool them into believing that their knowing is always accurate. The spiritually grounded person learns how to cultivate internal and external sources of energy and knows when to draw on them.

The grounded person overall knows when to take a rest from magic and other activities and also knows when to move ahead. They know how to monitor themselves, take care of the essentials and stay healthy in all the ways mentioned above. At a given time, you may find yourself ungrounded in one of these areas. When you do orient toward that area and do the work you need to do to get yourself back on track.

How to accept where you are to get what you want

Are you feeling stuck?

Caught up in the uncomfortable Discomfort?

I share how to turn that stuck state upside so you can get better results with your magical work. When we learn how to accept and relish the state we are in, that’s when we open the doors to potential and unlock the possibilities that we’ve been holding back because of how stuck we felt.

How to improve your energy work

Do you feel like you can’t sense energy?

Do you struggle with figuring out what to do with energy work?

I’ve got you handled. I’m going to answer these questions and share some tips to help you become a better energy worker.

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How to dissolve emotions with energy

I share how you can use qi gong to help you dissolve and release emotions so that you can express them authentically or let them go. I also share how this work can enhance your magical work and help you get better results.

How to Turn Tower Time into Opportunity

I discuss how to turn your tower time into opportunities for growth and change. While it can be hard to go through a tower time it is also an invitation to change. I discuss how to use tower time to uncover opportunities for change and growth in your life.

How to be Present with Tower Time

I share how to recognize Tower Time in your life and describe how the Tower can actually be a really useful and powerful card and energy that shouldn’t be avoided. Instead we can welcome it and use it to help us transform our lives and turn the tower energy into momentum that works in our favor.

Saturn Retrograde Reflections

I share some reflections on Saturn Retrograde and what you can be doing right now with this particular cycle. I also discuss the importance of reflecting, evaluating and assessing your life, career, etc, when dealing with Saturnic influences.

The Rules we live by define the magic we work

I’ve been taking a number of classes lately around men’s work and self-development and in one of the classes, there’s an exercise where you define your code of conduct, as a part of a process of learning how to master yourself and become the man you want to be. I think this exercise is applicable to anyone regardless of how they identify as a gender. What’s fascinating to me however is how the rules a person lives by (or lack thereof) define the magic that the person works, and indeed how the person surveys and experiences the world.

I’ve also been reading a book about this same topic where the author defines some rules to live by, so as to bring order to a chaotic life. The rules he shares are insightful because they aren’t moral rules so much as they are practical rules that define the way people tend to organize themselves, both within themselves, with other people, and with the environment they live in. This illustrates to me that there are chosen rules, i.e. rules where a person says I’m agreeing to live this way because this rule or value resonates with my deepest identity and I want to consciously show up with that way in my live. And then there are systemic rules, rules set by society at large that may favor some people over others and encourage a conformity in order to potentially benefit from your position. And finally there are environmental rules, which are rules that operate outside of human consciousness or control. These are rules all of us deal with and they aren’t easily altered, if they can be altered at all.

A life that operates without rules is a chaotic life, a situational response that always tries to adapt to the moment, but creates little, if any, stability. I have lived that life and I have found it to be an unsatisfying life, because there is little certainty or consistency that comes with it. Over time, with lots of effort, I’ve reoriented my life toward living a more orderly life. And even now I am continuing that process because I find that the more I define my life by rules that make sense and organize my way of being, the more focused I get with creating the life I want to live.

The rules we live by define the magic we work. As you get more and more clear around your life and the rules you live by, it shapes your outlook on your life and it shapes the magic you work. It creates the container in which your life operates, and the expectations you have around that container. Some of those rules are consciously chosen, and many of them are unconsciously chosen. The ones that are unconsciously chosen usually arrive from a combination of ancestral and familial patterns of behavior and societal norms and values. The rules that we consciously choose are ones we pick for ourselves based on an awareness around something we want to change in our lives or a way we want to behave in the world, in order to achieve specific results.

Magic is one process that can make us aware of the rules we’ve unconsciously chosen because it brings us up close and personal with our desires and it allows us to see what’s getting in the way of accomplishing those desires. Many people use magic to bend the rules of reality or find some angle that gets them what they want, but in that process they necessarily ought to take a moment to know themselves and discover what is it within them that is calling for that desire.

Sometimes what we discover is that we create rules for ourselves based around our shadows. For example, if you find yourself in a consistent situation where you are continually getting rejected by people around you, there is likely something within you that craves something about that rejection. You might find that statement odd, but consider that the rejection is a symptom of a homeostatic state of being which is comfortably uncomfortable. You know that state of being. It is familiar to you and there are no surprises to it. It ends with you being rejected, but at least you know to expect that. The problem is that leads you to settling for less.

You can only break this rule when you figure out what you getting from it that satisfies you. And you are getting some kind of satisfaction, even if it is the satisfaction of feeling comfortable with the situation, even though you don’t like it. It becomes a rule of your life, until you break it, and make a new rule, a consciously chosen rule, that you live by. Of course there can also be subtle variations of the former rule and what you’ll need to do is a deep dive into these variations and iron them out and in the process change your relationship with yourself and the agreements you’re making with the universe.

The rules we live be define the magic we work and the results we get. What are the rules you are living by? What are the results you’re getting. If you’re not satisfied with them, it might be time to do some deep work around transforming them so you can also change your life.

Inner Work leads to better results

I discuss the relationship between inner work and result. When we do inner work it helps us get better results because we know ourselves and we are living a life by design and by specific values. Inner work helps us figure out who we are and what we want and how to manifest it.