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The Danger of Glamour: A commentary on the cult of personality and why being true to yourself matters

The danger of glamour

In my Pop Culture Magic series, one of the topics I explored is the danger of the cult of personality. Anyone who has tasted some degree of fame knows this danger and how seductive it can be. When you suddenly have people hanging on your words, looking to you as a teacher and guru, it gives your ego a tremendous shot in the arm. You’re also, magically, a recipient of the incoming energy and attention those people direct toward you.

I have a theory that one of the reasons so many celebrities or other people who experience fame go crazy is because they aren’t energetically equipped to handle the amount of attention being directed their way, or the pressure that comes with trying to live up to an image/persona of who people think you are, versus who you are actually are.

Imagine for example, trying to live up to the image of being a six or seven figure entrepreneur, where you’ve crafted a persona around how much sex you have or the cars you drive or all the other images you create to sell your persona of success, just so you can get people to invest in your classes. You attract people to you, who buy what you offer and now suddenly you’re on the hook. You have to live up to the image and persona you’ve created.

That creates a lot of pressure, especially if your public persona doesn’t match up with your private life. Something I’ve both observed and experienced directly is that it can be all too easy to try and live up to an image and feel like a huge fraud because the image of you is saying one thing and the reality of you is experiencing something else entirely. There can be a deep feeling of shame.

What you may not realize is that your persona has taken on a life of its own.

Your persona becomes a thought form

The persona is a separate identity from your own. It is made up of the thoughts, emotions, belief and energies that other people direct toward you as well as what you’ve put into it. Initially a persona can be useful. It gives you a way to face the world and be larger than life, but the reality is that a persona can also become an egregore, an independent entity that takes on a life of its own, with its own desires and needs.

The persona as an egregore doesn’t have your best interests at heart. You are a tool for it, that happens to have birthed it. Every action you take needs to feed the egregore and the attention and energy people direct you also ultimately goes toward the glamour egregore that you’ve created.

It becomes its own reality and it sucks you into that reality. Incidentally, this doesn’t just apply to celebrities or politicians or other people in the public eye (though its far more obvious there). It applies to anyone who feels like they need to live up to an image of who they think other people want them to be. It can apply to:

  • The mom who is always taking care of everyone else in her life.

  • The man who feels like he has to be a leader in everything he does.

  • The student who thinks they have to get perfect grades.

And I’m sure you can think of a few other examples, perhaps even your own.

The glamour persona egregore can apply to anyone who feels like they are living a double life.

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Wanting without Shame - Alchemize your desire into Reality

Join us for our next live class on September 19th at 9:30 AM PST

In Wanting without Shame, we work with desire as magical material.

Desire is not just a personal preference.

Desire is orientation.

It is the current beneath intention, ritual, spellcraft, spirit work, creative work, business, visibility, money, pleasure, devotion, and becoming.

In Wanting Without Shame, we invite you to come play so you can:

  • Clarify the desire underneath your magical intentions, instead of casting from obligation, confusion, or “should.”

  • Identify the old selves that distort what you think you want: the self other people imagine you to be, the past self still running old spells, the idealized self chasing comparison, and the present self who can actually cast.

  • Work with shame, shadow, envy, greed, pride, lust, wrath, sloth, and hunger as information instead of contamination.

  • Use Love and Loathe tracking as magical data for your practice, business, relationships, rituals, offerings, and creative life.

  • Create Desire Statements that function as magical source code for spellwork, spirit petitions, sigils, business direction, offerings, and life choices.

Turn your desires into reality clearly and cleanly

Who are you, really?

The glamour persona is a magical identity, but it may not be your identity. It’s the mask you put onto to face the world and meet the demands of your day, but it is really you?

Can you take off the mask?

Can you become the person you know yourself to be, when you aren’t wearing the mask?

The danger of the persona is that it can be a larger than life personality that doesn’t fit who you are. You construct it as an opportunity to become something new, with a perception around who you think you ought to be. That has its uses, but when it becomes something you wear to manage the way you handle the world, it also creates a separation because you’re always trying to fill the shoes of this being that you’ve created.

In magical identity work, instead of creating a persona for how you navigate the world, the focus is on picking a result and becoming that result. The difference is subtle, but important. In identity work you don’t create a persona that you use to handle situations, people, or experience. You define your desired result and then you become result. This is a process of transformation that isn’t based on trying to create a lifestyle glamour. Instead it’s based on bringing the result into your life in a meaningful way.

I came up with this approach after making the mistake of trying to craft a persona. I lived in the shadow of my persona and burned out because I was trying to be something that wasn’t real for me. My persona felt exaggerated and unreal and didn’t really match the person I knew I was. In trying to be larger than life, I actually found myself diminished by the persona.

I dismissed the persona I created and rethought my whole approach. I didn’t need to create a larger than life personality. I needed to be myself, but I asked myself if I could be myself and make changes that still lined up with my identity. That’s when I came to recognize that doing magical identity work was a better approach.

I focused on changed my identity from within myself by picking out a result and becoming the result. Becoming the result allowed me to organically accept a new outcome where I became the person who lived that result. I avoided the dangers of persona work in favor of simply choosing to become the result I wanted to live. Here’s a practical exploration of how this can work.

Step 1: Choose your desired result. It should be something that is a stretch for your identity, but also something you want to become. For example, I wanted to own a home, but had always been a renter.

Step 2: Create a practical magic working that connects your desired result with your current identity. For example, I created a sigil magic working, where one sigil represented me as a renter. Then I created a second sigil which represented me as a home owner. I drew a line between the two sigils.

Step 3: Activate the practical magic working so you shift from one identity to the other. I burned the first sigil and scattered the ashes. I took the second sigil and applied to applications I was filling out for home loans as well as paperwork for potential houses.

Step 4: Become your desired reality through mundane actions that support your magical work. I started shopping for homes. Once I found a home I wanted, I made an offer on it and did a working to Aphrodite to make my house offer more attractive. I also promised her that I would make her the patron goddess of the house. Then I imagined myself living at that house and being the home owner.

This is how you can get a result by changing you identity without using a persona.

Hot takes on shame, shadow & the magic of desires

If you’ve ever felt conflicted about your desire, or felt like you wanted something and yet found some way to sabotage it, you’re going to want to watch this episode of the Magical Experiments podcast.

Sheena and I share 15 hot takes on shame, shadow and the magic of desire and along the way explore:

  • How shame and fear can small you and contain your magic.

  • What love and loathing have to do with identifying your desires.

  • How to use the deadly sins as information instead of as shaming.

And if what we shares lands with you, then you’ll want to join us for our upcoming live workshop on September 19th:

Wanting without Shame - Alchemize your desire into Reality

In Wanting without Shame, we work with desire as magical material.

Desire is not just a personal preference.

Desire is orientation.

It is the current beneath intention, ritual, spellcraft, spirit work, creative work, business, visibility, money, pleasure, devotion, and becoming.

In Wanting Without Shame, we invite you to come play so you can:

  • Clarify the desire underneath your magical intentions, instead of casting from obligation, confusion, or “should.”

  • Identify the old selves that distort what you think you want: the self other people imagine you to be, the past self still running old spells, the idealized self chasing comparison, and the present self who can actually cast.

  • Work with shame, shadow, envy, greed, pride, lust, wrath, sloth, and hunger as information instead of contamination.

  • Use Love and Loathe tracking as magical data for your practice, business, relationships, rituals, offerings, and creative life.

  • Create Desire Statements that function as magical source code for spellwork, spirit petitions, sigils, business direction, offerings, and life choices.


Turn your desires into reality clearly and cleanly.

Fuzzy Intentions = Unclear Results

I want you to take a moment and think about a magical working that you did where the result you achieved wasn’t quite what you wanted. You did the magic spell or ritual exactly as it was written, or maybe you pulled together a working of your own, but regardless of how you went about it, the outcome just didn’t quite land the way you hoped it would.

This happens more often than you might think. It’s happened to both of us and it’s happened to other experienced magicians as well. The question is…why does it happen?

One of the causes that we’ve discovered with results that don’t quite manifest the way you anticipated is because the intention for the magic isn’t well defined. When the intention isn’t clear it leads to unclear results.

For instance, if you have a statement of intention that is overly broad, it creates a situation where any result that fits within that intention is acceptable. However, getting any result that fits within the intention may not actually be what you want. Similarly, if you’re an entrepreneur or small business owner you know that anyone is not your ideal client. If you are asked who your ideal client is and you say anyone, you aren’t actually giving the person who asked a concrete answer. What you’ve provided is a fuzzy answer and no one can do anything with an answer like that, because it’s too broad!

The obvious solution is to get more specific about your intention. If you are more specific with your intention, that typically brings more clarity. But as we shared with our previous article, getting more specific doesn’t always lead to the result you want to create.

Still, there’s something significant about the initial choice to avoid getting specific. The tendency to avoid specificity in your intention can be a symptom of what really needs to be addressed, both in your magical work and your relationship with your desires.

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Getting what you want means getting witnessed by what you want

We want what we want. Your desire isn’t something that can be turned off. It can be repressed and pushed down and ignored, but at some point, your desire will make itself known.

When you are unclear with your intentions around a desire it can be a signal that there’s something worth exploring around the desire itself. Maybe you’re feeling conflicted about the desire or maybe there’s some part of you that says you shouldn’t want whatever it is you want. We certainly get enough contradictory messaging in our lives from the people around us and some of that imprints on us, until we deal with the messaging decisively.

The reason a lot of desires come out sideways is that your internal critic has tried to shut the desire down. It hasn’t worked, but your desire doesn’t try to face the critic head on, usually because the critic is mirrored externally by people in your life or situations where you’re trying to to fit in and be accepted and approved of. Your desire comes out side ways and one of the ways it can do that is through your magical work.

So, you have something you really want and you decide to cast a magical spell for it. But some part of you hesitates, and what you come up with is a broad intention. That can actually be your desire coming out sideways, because what you think you want isn’t actually what you want. The magic spell you cast will make it evident that something if off and the result you get will bring something of what you want, without giving you all of it.

For September’s Alchemy Lab, we are going into this directly.

Intention Alchemy Lab

How do I know if I have a clear intention?

Thursday, September 10th
6:30 PM PT / 9:30 PM ET

In this Lab, we are going to explore how to tell whether your intention is actually clear, or whether something underneath it needs attention first.

A clear intention sits at the meeting place of desire, body, shadow, choice, and action.

We’ll work with three short experiments.

Bring one intention you are currently working with, or one area of your magic, business, creativity, relationships, money, spirit work, or life that feels muddy. We will listen beneath the first answer and see what else is there.

Then we will work with the body as a truth-sensor. A split intention often has a somatic signature: fog, collapse, numbness, throat constriction, restlessness, over-explaining, or the sudden need to convince yourself. A clearer intention may still be intense, but it has more coherence. It feels like something the body can stand behind, even if your ego is sweating or throwing a tantrum.

Finally, we will map the interference. When an intention is not clear, something is usually mucking up the works. It may be a competing desire, an old vow, a shame pattern, a fear of consequence, a shadow desire, or a part of you that benefits from the spell never fully working.

The interference is not always the enemy. Sometimes, it is information we need to fully step into our power as sovereign magicians.

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This also flows into our upcoming September Workshop.

This Alchemy Lab is the perfect lead-in to our upcoming Magical Experiments class:

Wanting Without Shame

Desire Play for Magicians and Magical Creators

In the Alchemy Lab, we focus on intention: how to clarify it, how to feel whether it is coherent, and how to notice what blocks it.

In Wanting Without Shame, we go deeper into desire itself.

Because before you can cast clearly, you have to want clearly.

We will explore desire as a magical current, shadow material, body wisdom, business fuel, and creative force. We will look at the old selves that distort what we think we want, the desires we have been trained to hide, and the difference between casting from truth and casting from shame, obligation, or spiritual politeness.

For those of you building magical businesses, creating offerings, writing, teaching, reading, healing, making art, or trying to bring your magic into the material world, this is especially potent. Your business desires matter. Your creative desires matter. Your money desires matter. Your visibility desires matter. Your pleasure, rest, power, devotion, hunger, and ambition all belong in the room.

Magic Circle members receive 25% off Wanting Without Shame!

So this is a beautiful time to jump in with us.

Join us first for our Intention Alchemy Lab on September 10th, where we workshop our intentions together and explore what gets in the way.

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Then join us in Wanting Without Shame, where we go deeper into the desire beneath the intention and learn how to work with wanting as magical material (and save 25% if you’re a member of the Magic Circle!)

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What happens when you limit your intention

A few weeks ago I was at a psychic fair offering divination readings.

On the first day I was setting up my booth, when the organizer of the event did a pre-event circle to set the intention of the event. Whenever I attend a metaphysical or psychic fair the pre-event circle is used to help all of us connect with each other and get ready for a fun day of readings, connections and community.

What stood out to me about this particular experience was how the organizer wrapped up the event invocation with a specific intention. The intention was:

May the people who come to us today get exactly what they require

I chanted this phrase with everyone else and didn’t think much of it at the time, but that day proved to be a very slow day with only a couple of readings. As I drove home, I reflected on the day’s events, trying to figure out why I had gotten so few readings and it came to me that perhaps the reason was the group intention.

People were only getting what they required. It seemed like such a limiting intentional and not nearly as beneficial to them or the readers.

I decided to conduct an intention experiment the next day to see if I could get better results with readings and the overall experience at the fair.

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An experiment with wording and deliberate intention

The next day I arrived at the metaphysical fair and just like the day before, the organizer asked all of us to circle up so we could cast our intention for the day. And just like before she wanted to use the same phrase, “May the people who come to us today get exactly what they require.”

I didn’t chant that phrase on the second day. Instead I chose to say something else that embodied the intention I wanted to bring to the event.

“May the people who come us today get what they desire.”

It was a subtle change, but an important one. The word require felt limiting, for the people and for us as vendors. I didn’t want people to limit themselves to what they required. I would rather they get what they desired.

I made that phrase my statement of intent and said it while setting up my vendor space for the day. I circled around my space three times, quietly chanting it to myself. And then I got ready for my day.

Business that day was much better. I did 7 readings and sold a few books, as well. They day before I had only done two readings. I had changed my intention and it changed my experience as well as the energy of the space, for myself.

It also proved to be a valuable lesson about the words we choose and how they can create artificial limits that aren’t helpful. In the context of this event, the word require was overly limiting. People might get what they absolutely needed, but they likely wouldn’t get anything else. A requirement isn’t the same as a desire. A requirement focuses on what is needed or essential and in certain situations that can be really useful. It wasn’t useful though at a psychic fair.

By changing the statement and focusing the intent on desire, I created a space where people could choose to explore what they desired, as well as whatever they require. A desire isn’t the same as a requirement. You can want something without requiring it, yet often what we want points to a deeper need. I created an intentional space where people could explore what they desired and that opened the door for more prosperity to come in.

Curious to learn more about how this works and how you can apply it to your life?

Then you’ll want to join at our next live class, Wanting without Shame, on September 19th at 9:30 am PST.

Desire Play for Magicians and Magical Creators

In the Alchemy Lab (on September 10th), we focus on intention: how to clarify it, how to feel whether it is coherent, and how to notice what blocks it.

In Wanting Without Shame, we go deeper into desire itself.

Because before you can cast clearly, you have to want clearly.

We will explore desire as a:

  • magical current,

  • shadow material,

  • body wisdom,

  • business fuel,

  • and creative force.

We will look at the old selves that distort what we think we want, the desires we have been trained to hide, and the difference between casting from truth and casting from shame, obligation, or spiritual politeness.

For those of you building magical businesses, creating offerings, writing, teaching, reading, healing, making art, or trying to bring your magic into the material world, this is especially potent.

Your business desires matter. Your creative desires matter. Your money desires matter. Your visibility desires matter. Your pleasure, rest, power, devotion, hunger, and ambition all belong in the room.

✨ Ways to Support the Fire ✨

Our hearth grows brighter when you add your spark. Here’s how you can weave your magic with ours:

🔥 Comment & Share — Your questions, stories, and reflections feed the field. Passing our posts along brings new voices and Experimenters into our community.

🔥 Join Our Communal Wealth ExperimentContribute to Abundantia our Magical Experiments Community Wealth Spirit, a current of joyful reciprocity that fuels our work, delightfully returns to you, and ripples blessings back into our wider community.

When shame undermines your magic

What you do with the signal transforms your relationship with your desire

Desire and shame often play with each other in a dance that at times seems coquettish and at other times can feel maddening. You want what you want, but shame rears up and says “No, you don’t actually want that!” You listen, back down, but then desire throws a curve ball that has you chasing after it like you were a dog. Then Shame shows up again and sprays you with water.

It seems to be an endless cycle and it can play out in your magical practice in both subtle and obvious ways. Over the last two weeks we have shared articles exploring the topic of intention and what happens when you aren’t clear with your intention in your magic and your life.

Shame can be an underlying experience and emotion that gets in the way of your desires. Usually, the feeling of shame is inherited from your family or society, although sometimes it also shows up based on how you really feel about yourself in the moment. Shame has a purpose. A lot of people get weird about shame, but that’s because our relationship with it is one of avoidance.

Shame and guilt are two different experiences. Shame is identity-based, while guilt is action-based. When you feel shame you feel bad about who you are. When you feel guilt you feel bad about an action you’ve taken.

One is an ontological experience and the other is based in a momentary experience you are having. Shame is the more powerful experience because of how it is rooted in our bodies and embedded in our psyche. It likely doesn’t help that shame is used to indoctrinate and enforce preferred patterns of conformative behavior that can undermine your magical workings.

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Magic is transgressive

It breaks conformative reality by offering you the opportunity to turn your desires into reality. And conformative reality doesn’t support this. It uses shame as a lever. When you’re working your magic and a sense of shame comes in, its because your ontological reality is set to resist your desire. You want your desire and yet the shame you feel pushes back against it.

Until you deal with the somatic experience of your shame, it will continue to undermine your magical work and results. It’s working on the identity level and most magical spells and workings focus on the persona level, trying to change through will and doing, instead of through being and meaning.

Being and meaning is where the change really needs to occur. The majority of spell work focuses on changing the world around you, but without going inward and changing your identity, all that spell work really does is set you up for short term results that don’t stay with you. You have acted on your desire, but what you haven’t done is address the shame that is at the root of the desire, waiting to rear up.

Your inner world needs to match the reality you’re seeking to create for yourself. One of the ways you do that is through establishing clear intentions about what you really want, without apologizing for it or trying to get the good opinions of other people to agree with your choices. Usually, when we feel shame its because we’re trying to measure up to who someone else thinks we should be or what society says we should be. We clear the shame away when we enter into a relationship with it where we co-opt it to work for us.

The Shame Compass Exercise

Most people treat shame like an obstacle. Instead, treat it like a compass. Shame often appears at the edge of the life you actually want to live. Rather than asking, “How do I get rid of this shame?” ask a different question:

“What desire is this shame trying to keep me from admitting?”

Take out a journal and draw three columns.

Column One: The Desire

Write down five things you genuinely want.

Don’t censor yourself. Don’t worry about whether they’re realistic, spiritual enough, or acceptable.

Simply write:

I desire...

Allow yourself to be embarrassingly honest.

Column Two: The Voice of Shame

Next to each desire, write every objection that immediately appears.

Examples might include:

  • That’s selfish.

  • People will think I’m weird.

  • Good people don’t want that.

  • You’re too old.

  • You’re not worthy.

  • What if everyone rejects you?

  • You’ll disappoint your family.

  • That’s not what a magician should focus on.

Don’t argue with these statements. Simply let the voice speak.

Column Three: The Origin

For every shame statement ask:

Whose voice is this?

Don’t overthink it.

Was it:

  • A parent?

  • A religious belief?

  • A former partner?

  • School?

  • Society?

  • An online community?

  • A magical tradition?

  • Something you concluded after being hurt?

If you can’t identify the source, simply write: Unknown.

The point isn’t certainty. The point is discovering that many of these voices didn’t originate with you.

Embodied Reflection

Now close your journal and take several slow breaths.

Choose one desire from your list.

Place one hand on your chest and one on your abdomen.

Say aloud:

“This desire belongs to me.”

Notice what happens in your body.

Do your shoulders tighten?

Does your stomach contract?

Does your breathing change?

Rather than trying to relax those sensations, simply become curious about them.

Then ask:

“What would my body feel like if I no longer needed permission to want this?”

Notice whether your posture, breathing, or emotional state shifts.

Magical Integration

Now rewrite the desire as an intention.

Instead of

“I want people to approve of this.”

try:

“I choose to become someone who naturally lives this desire.”

Before performing any spell related to this intention, read this statement aloud. If shame arises during the working, don’t treat it as a sign you’ve failed.

Treat it as confirmation that you’ve reached the boundary between the identity you’ve inherited and the identity you’re choosing to cultivate.

Change yourself, change your relationship with reality

When you change your relationship with shame, you also change your relationship with reality. Your shame is a signal calling for your attention and awareness to something deep within that is aching to transform.

Most people will hide from that transformation or try to numb it, but as magicians we have the opportunity to turn shame into a potent source of magical alchemy that brings us to our full potential.

Join us for our September 19th workshop:

Wanting Without Shame

Desire Play for Magicians and Magical Creators

In the Alchemy Lab (on September 10th), we focus on intention: how to clarify it, how to feel whether it is coherent, and how to notice what blocks it.

In Wanting Without Shame, we go deeper into desire itself.

Because before you can cast clearly, you have to want clearly.

We will explore desire as a:

  • magical current,

  • shadow material,

  • body wisdom,

  • business fuel,

  • and creative force.

We will look at the old selves that distort what we think we want, the desires we have been trained to hide, and the difference between casting from truth and casting from shame, obligation, or spiritual politeness.

For those of you building magical businesses, creating offerings, writing, teaching, reading, healing, making art, or trying to bring your magic into the material world, this is especially potent.

Your business desires matter. Your creative desires matter. Your money desires matter. Your visibility desires matter. Your pleasure, rest, power, devotion, hunger, and ambition all belong in the room.

Wanting without Shame - Alchemize your desires into Reality

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Can Magic be a Process and Still be Magic?

You’ve heard the bad advice:

“You don’t need to know how magic works. Just do it.”

That advice doesn’t really work though when a spell fails or a magic ritual doesn’t come together.

The fact is when you know HOW MAGIC WORKS you get better results. You aren’t wondering if what you’re doing will work. You know how it works and that makes you more confident as a magician.

And that’s why I wrote The Process of Magic. In this episode I talk about what a process is and how processes show up in magical work. For example:

  • A spell is a process with step by step instructions for executing it.

  • A sigil is a symbol that is created through a process.

  • A ritual is a process as well.

I could give further examples, but my point is that when you look at magic as a process it changes how you practice magic. It also helps you understand what you are doing so you can get better results.

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  • What the underlying principles of magic are.

  • How these principles can help you get better results with your magic.

  • How to apply them to your spells and rituals.

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The Wanting Gap - The difference between want and have can transform your magic

Ever wonder why you can’t have what you want?

I’m about to let you in on a little secret that could change how you practice magic forever…

In this episode I share:

  • The gap between wanting and having

  • What happens when you have something

  • How wanting becomes an addiction

If any of this lands with you, I invite you to join Sheena and I for our upcoming class on September 19th:

Wanting without Shame - Alchemize your desire into Reality

In this class you will achieve the following results:

  • Clearly identify the energy of wanting in your life and how it’s keeping you from having your desired results.

  • Turn your inner doubts, fear, and shame into allies that orient you to what you truly want.

  • Claim your desires unapologetically so you can:

What Saturn Retrograde can teach us about shame: The hidden agreements and rules you didn't know were limiting your magic

We’re in a Saturn Retrograde cycle until December of this year that started at the tail end of July. As this particular cycle has landed in me, one of the themes I keep coming back to is the theme of hidden agreements, specifically the hidden agreements people make with themselves that hold them back from stepping into the life they truly want to live.

Saturn retrograde offers us the opportunity to shine some light on those hidden agreements and ask ourselves how they are serving us, and make no mistake…They are serving us in one way or another. We may not consciously want those agreements in place, but the deeper levels of identity usually have a reason for putting them into place.

Your hidden agreements can come in many forms. Here’s a few examples of how they show up:

Relationships - You find yourself attracting certain types of relationships, even though on the conscious level you don’t want that relationship type.

Success/failure - You experience a limited level of success in your life, but when you try to go beyond it you end up back where you were.

Money - Your relationship with money is one where you are always chasing after it, or never feel like you have enough.

Take a moment and consider the hidden agreements you have in your life. This is the right time to call them forth and look at how they are impacting your life. While you do that I’ll share a practical example, below, of how I changed one of my hidden agreements.

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The Hidden Agreement with Rejection

In my early twenties, I tried to date women that I knew would reject me. I did this because I had a hidden agreement with myself that it was better to know I would get rejected then get involved with someone and later on have the relationship not work. Once I recognized this hidden agreement for what it was, I realized that trying to date people that would reject me didn’t make sense. I changed the agreement and as a result changed my life.

Yet to change this hidden agreement I had to understand what was at the root of it. Shame was at the root. I had a limiting belief that could never be good enough for someone to date or want to be in a relationship with me. That obviously wasn’t true, but as long as I felt that way about myself it was my reality.

Once I changed that hidden agreement, I started dating people who were attracted to me. I had changed the way I valued myself and it changed my relationships with other people and the world around me.

Hidden agreements operate in the background of your life, influencing your decisions and experiences and shaping the outcomes you experience. Usually these hidden agreements have been put into place by parts of ourselves that are trying to protect us from getting hurt. The problem is that these agreements don’t actually serve us. They may have been what we came up with to get through a tough circumstance, but applied beyond that circumstance, they become Saturnian rules that limit us instead of liberating us.

How hidden agreements can limit your magical outcomes

You cast a spell and get a result, but then the result goes away or it only partially manifests the way you wanted it to. You wonder why…and if your magic is failing. It’s not the magic that’s failing…it’s the hidden agreements that are getting in the way. They kick in and they limit the reach of the magic and the outcome, because that outcome goes against the Saturnian rules you’ve written for yourself.

Change the rules and you change your relationship with magic and the results you get.

That sounds easy in theory. The practical application of it however can be more involved.

First, you need to recognize the agreement and how that agreement plays out in your life. Next, you need to recognize how that agreement is and isn’t serving you and make a decision on what you’ll do with that story.

Here’s a step by step walkthrough of how you can apply this practice to your life.

Step 1 Track how the hidden agreement is showing up in your magic.

When you’re doing a magical working, you want to keep a record of the results that you’re obtaining and also track how long those results stick.

Is the result sticking for a limited period of time, or is it something that has truly landed in your life?

If the result is sticking for a limited period of time, it’s times to find out why.

Complete the following sentence, without over thinking it.

The result isn’t sticking because ___.

Now read what you wrote down. Whatever it is you wrote is the hidden agreement that’s undermining your magic.

Don’t judge it. Judging it will reinforce the shame that’s at the root of your agreement and bind it even tighter to the Saturnian rule you are applying to your life.

Sit with it. Where did this story come from? Our hidden stories always have an origin.

Step 2 - How is (and isn’t) this story serving you?

The reason this story is in your life. It serves a purpose.

What is the purpose that this story serves for you?

What does it justify or rationalize or give to you that allows you to explain your circumstances away?

What is this story protecting you from?

There’s a reason this story is in place, and it’s usually because the story protects you from something.

After you’ve answered those questions, I want you to ask yourself another question.

How is this story not serving you? How is it actually limiting you from experiencing the fullness of life?

Both sides of this exploration. One side is telling you how the story serves you, the other side is telling you how it isn’t serving you. Take both of them in.

What you want to sit with is the incongruity of this story.

On one hand it serves you, and on the other hand it doesn’t serve you. You’re consciously pulling both sides in to create this contradiction that allows you to fully sit with and understand how the story is defining your life.

Now you have a decision to make. Do you want to continue to let this story run your life, or do you want to change the story?

Step 3: Rewrite the story (and the rules it embodies).

You have the opportunity to rewrite the story.

I want you to create a guided path working for yourself where you travel to the most recent retelling of the story.

Allow yourself to vividly recall that story and how it has played out in your life.

Now, retell the story, changing it. What details would you change about that story that would give you the preferred outcome that you actually want to achieve?

Use the same process to revisit at least two more experiences where you have told that story to yourself, changing it each time.

By changing your relationship with the story, you begin to change the way you relate to your reality. In our upcoming live workshop Wanting without Shame, Sheena and I will share how to use the orientation of your desire and shame to transform your hidden stories permanently.

The Connection between Saturn, Shame and your Hidden Stories

Saturn is the planetary force of boundaries and limits, but also the harvest. When Saturn goes retrograde, it calls you to review your stories and your rules and decide which of those are actually serving you and which are just creating needless limitations in your life.

Hidden stories are wrapped up in shame. Shame is that momentary impulse that limits and holds you back and causes you to second guess yourself. It shows up in the results that don’t stick because there’s some part that says, “I don’t deserve this.”

Shame acts as a limiter, keeping you within the specific parameters of your life and telling you all the reasons you can’t succeed or get what you want. It becomes a Saturnian rule enforcer that works through your hidden stories. You tell yourself those stories, the results go away and shame keeps you safe, and in the status quo that you feel stuck in.

But if you want to change that relationship and the rules you need to transform how you interact with shame and its opposite desire. Shame is underneath desire and it write the rules that govern how desire is experienced. embodied and explored.

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In our upcoming live workshop Wanting without Shame we walk you through how to:

  • Clarify the desire underneath your magical intentions, instead of casting from obligation, confusion, or “should.”

  • Identify the old selves that distort what you think you want: the self other people imagine you to be, the past self still running old spells, the idealized self chasing comparison, and the present self who can actually cast.

  • Work with shame, shadow, envy, greed, pride, lust, wrath, sloth, and hunger as information instead of contamination.

  • Use Love and Loathe tracking as magical data for your practice, business, relationships, rituals, offerings, and creative life.

  • Create Desire Statements that function as magical source code for spellwork, spirit petitions, sigils, business direction, offerings, and life choices.

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What is your magic centered around? What you care about shapes your reality and your magic

Compass

In 2022, in the wake of a breakup, I lay in bed thinking to myself, “I don’t like who I am and getting into another relationship isn’t going to solve this problem.” I was centering my life around other people and avoiding my own inner work and it was costing me everything.

A few weeks back, I had the opportunity to interview Anthony Rella about Slow Magic. The interview got me thinking about something I had read in The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.

What you center your life around defines your life. For example, if you center your life around work then work will define your life and the choices you make. If you center your life around a relationship, then that relationship will define your life and your choices. If you center your life around pleasure, then pleasure will define the choices you make in your life. I can continue but I think you get the idea.

Reading that point made me think of the moment of realization in 2022 that I was centering my life on the wrong priorities. The point the author is making is that so many people base their lives on external outcomes or relationships or desires instead of centering their lives around principles that help them live their best lives.

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When I read that chapter, I squirmed uncomfortably. I have been that person who has centered my life around work, relationships, pleasure, and other situational experiences. It’s taken me a long time to recognize that about myself and also do the necessary work to change who I am. It’s an ongoing work in progress. It may always be an ongoing work.

In the interview with Anthony, we discussed the value of working with magic slowly, and being curious and open to how the magic unfolds. I’ve learned in my own life just how important it is to let the magic land instead of continually working it.

What long term magic has taught me is to look beyond the immediate situation and ask myself what the ultimate outcome of my life will be. It has asked me to look at legacy, specifically what I will leave behind and how that will be passed on to the future generations. It has required me to look at my life and ask how my life journey is actually aligning with my desired life outcome. Along the way, I’ve had to take a good hard look at myself and my choices.

Words such as responsibility, truth and integrity have taken on a different meaning through long term magic. I am casting a spell to last a life time (and beyond) and the values I live by play a role in that magical work. This has led me to ask a question in today’s article, both of myself and you.

What is your magic centered around?

This question is also prompted by another recognition I’ve had around magic. Many people treat magic as something to do, but magic is much more than that. Magic is relational and what I mean by that is when you cast a spell, do a working, contact a spirit or do some other type of magical practice, it’s not just to reach an outcome. There is a relational component that occurs where the magician is essentially trying to reach a different state of being through magic.

Can you emerge out the other side of the magical working okay with yourself and your new reality?

The question may seem self-evident but I don’t think it is. I think it actually requires us to reach a level of awareness and depth about who we are choosing to be and how magic can help us change our identity. Your magical identity is centered around what you orient yourself towards. That orientation defines your relationship with your magic, your life and everything else you have a relationship with.

A life based around principles uses those principles to define your life. For instance, I mentioned the word responsibility earlier. That word and the principle it represents has become an essential part of my life orientation. It influences my magical work as well, because I inevitably find myself inquiring whether I am taking responsibility for this magical working I’m choosing to do. There’s also a level of nuance, because I look at responsibility as the ability to respond. In other words, I am choosing my response as opposed to reacting to a situation…both magically and mundanely. All of this sounds good, but let’s bring a level of practical application to it so that you can see how what I’m sharing could apply to your life and magic.

Practical Exercise: The Principle Compass

“Your life follows what it is centered on.”

Every magical working changes more than your circumstances. It changes what your life revolves around. Over time, that center becomes your identity. This exercise helps you discover what currently centers your life, choose the principles you want to live by, and begin orienting your magic around them.

Step One: Find Your Current Center

Without judging yourself, answer these questions.

When I make important decisions, what usually has the final say?

What occupies most of my thoughts?

What am I most afraid of losing?

What do I continually organize my time around?

When I perform magic, what am I usually trying to protect, avoid, or acquire?

Now look for the pattern.

Perhaps your life is centered around:

  • approval

  • money

  • certainty

  • relationships

  • pleasure

  • safety

  • achievement

  • avoiding discomfort

  • being right

Write one sentence:

At this point in my life, my world has largely been centered around ____________________.

Don’t choose what sounds noble.

Choose what is actually true.

Step Two: Choose Three Principles

Now ask a different question.

Instead of asking,

“What do I want?”

Ask,

Who must I become for my life to be worth living, regardless of circumstances?

Choose three principles you want to organize your life around.

Examples include:

  • Responsibility

  • Curiosity

  • Integrity

  • Courage

  • Presence

  • Generosity

  • Patience

  • Stewardship

  • Devotion

  • Compassion

  • Discipline

  • Truth

Write each principle on a separate page.

Then answer:

Why does this principle matter?

How would someone living from this principle behave differently than I do today?

How would this principle change my magical practice?

Step Three: Reinterpret Your Magic

Think about the last three magical workings you performed.

For each one ask:

What outcome was I seeking?

Which principle was this working expressing?

Which principle was missing?

For example:

Money spell

Outcome:
Increase income.

Missing principle:
Stewardship.

Question:
How would I practice stewardship before asking for more wealth?

Relationship spell

Outcome:
Find a partner.

Missing principle:
Integrity.

Question:
How can I become someone capable of sustaining the relationship I’m asking for?

Notice how the focus shifts from getting something to becoming someone.

Step Four: Create an Orientation Question

This becomes your magical compass.

Complete this sentence.

Today, how can I express _________ regardless of what happens?

Examples:

Today, how can I express responsibility regardless of what happens?

Today, how can I express courage regardless of what happens?

Today, how can I express curiosity regardless of what happens?

Ask this every morning.

The answer may have nothing to do with ritual.

That is part of the practice.

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Legacy Magic is for practitioners who want their magic to mature from isolated acts into sustained influence.

Long-term magic changes your orientation

Magic, of any type, changes your orientation. You may be doing magic to get a specific outcome, but you are also changing your position in the world and your identity. I don’t think this is always fully appreciated in short-term workings, because the focus is usually on trying to fix a problem or respond to a situation, yet underneath all of that is a call to change who you are to meet the new reality you are calling in.

Long-term magic, which is done to design your life and legacy, calls on the magician to make the conscious choice to re-orient their identity around the desired long-term outcome they want to manifest for their life. And yet living life also is a process of changing orientation. I can create a long-term magical working and still have to deal with the variables that life throws my way. What long-term magic does is keep your life journey oriented to the desired outcome, while also folding in the variables so they ultimately work to create your desired outcome.

For example, you might do a long-term magical working around your career. You have a specific goal in mind for the work you want to do, the money you want to make, and how you can serve your community. The magical working orients you toward all of that, but also does one other thing.

Magic works in mysterious ways

I have had many experiences come into my life in ways I couldn’t fully anticipate or plan for at the time. These experiences ended up being folded into the long-term magical working because they were synchronistic entanglements of probabilities that helped move the long-term magical working on.

The outcome or result of a long-term magical working is something which continually informs the magical work. The outcome also continually changes There’s not a singular moment when the result is declared done. Rather it is an unfolding through your entire life, which is continually brought into alignment through your magical work. You may reach a milestone with that outcome, but that milestone will reveal additional details that inspire the continuation of the long-term magic.

On that fateful day in 2022, I had already been doing long-term magical work since 2017. The realization I had changed the course of my long-term magical work. I made the decision that I would change my relationship with myself before I got into another relationship with someone else. I knew I needed to break the patterns of behavior that weren’t serving me. Breaking that pattern became part of the long-term magical working and it helped me change what I centered my life around. That change in orientation also changed the long-term magical working and the desired outcome. I share that last point to illustrate that the magic changes your life and is changed by your life.

Should you do a long-term magical working? The answer is yes. Just remember that you’re not trying to live a static life. Your magic shouldn’t be static either.

Softening Reality through Long Term Magic

Long term magic

It was November 2017. I put away everything I knew about magic and challenged myself to do something new: Practice a simple daily ritual to set the direction of my life, instead of continuing to cast spells to solve short term problems.

In Will based Magic, the magician tries to impose their will on reality to achieve a result. Sometimes this works and sometimes it doesn’t. In Legacy Magic, the magician or witch applies a different approach, softening reality through repetitive magic.

What do I mean by softening reality?

The softening reality technique recognizes that there is a certain level of resistance to change, especially when you go after more improbable possibilities. This level of resistance can be turned into momentum through repetitive magic. A magical working that is done again and again and again has an impact on the reality around it. It softens reality, making it easier to manifest possibilities into outcomes.

The conventional wisdom around magical workings and spells is that you only do a working or spell once and then you let it go and do its thing. This is sometimes a useful way to approach magical spell work but sometimes it can also end up being a limitation that actually doesn’t serve you very well.

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The Principles of Legacy Magic

In Legacy Magic the focus is on designing your life through magic so it actually requires a repetitive approach to magical work that gradually steers you toward the specific result that you want to achieve. You’re not just trying to achieve a limited outcome in the immediate or short-term future. You’re actually trying to design your entire life. This requires an approach to magic that is fundamentally different from the way that you will typically learn how to do spell work.

You choose a magical working to practice each day. You’re creating an iterative process where you repetitiously practice that magical working with the specific outcome in mind. Certain fundamental principles at work make this effective. The first principle at work is that the act of repetition occurs through every single moment of the magical working that you’ve done. In other words, each time you do the magical working, that working encompasses all the other moments when you’ve done the same working, creating an iterative, repetitive process that softens reality.

The second principle is that you are present in every single moment of that magical working. When you do the magical working in the current moment, you are connecting across time to all the other moments that you’ve done that magical working. This serves a very important purpose because your future self is working all the way back to the very first moment that you began the working and creating a unified stream of magical consciousness between the last moment that you ever do the working and the first moment. It creates a continuum across time and space that unifies the magical working and allows it to occupy the entirety of your life, defining the outcome of your life through the magical work.

How Legacy Magic can change the journey of your life

Iterative magic weaves the flow of magic into your life, shaping and directing the experiences that you have. You’re actively creating your life from a place of design instead of waiting for your life to happen to you. Events that come into your life will inevitably end up playing a role in the magical work and will be part of the co-creation. People that come into your life will also play a role in your life in the same way, becoming part of the overall magical working that you’ve done and orchestrating the experience of your life that happens.

Something that is worth noting is that you will also be part of their lives in that the magic that they work (if they work magic) will weave into your own magic, creating some very interesting synchronicities. This is something that always happens when other magicians interact with you because you’re dealing with co-creative forces on their end as well as your own.

What I’ve discovered has been really helpful for achieving long-term results is to repetitiously practice magical workings and change the outcomes along the way. I have an overall outcome that I am working toward and an ideal magical life, if you will, but along the way I create results that stack up to that outcome. I work the magic toward those results. As I achieve those results, I adjust them so that I continually evolve the magical working to meet the circumstances of my life, rather than focusing on a short-term end result. This has greatly improved the overall quality of my life because I am continually changing what I’m striving toward and at the same time making it part of the same long-term magical working that I’ve been doing for years.

The reason I switched to long-term magic is because I realized that while getting short-term results was helpful sometimes, it was also a frustrating experience. I didn’t feel like there was a consistent theme in my life that was allowing me to create the life that I wanted. Sure it was fun to throw a sigil here or do a magic spell there or burn a candle during the full moon. But the question I kept coming away with is: how is this actually changing my life? What am I actually doing to create sustainable change that allows me to live the magical life that I really want to live?

What I realized is that applying will-based magic might give me a short-term outcome but what it wasn’t doing was creating the long-term change that I really wanted. I wanted to be living life on my terms. I wasn’t doing that by just doing the occasional spell. I needed something that would actually create a real, sustainable connection to the magic and allow me to soften reality so that I could achieve the results I wanted to manifest.

I changed my approach from will-based magic to long-term legacy magic because it made sense. Instead of doing spells to deal with specific problems that came up, I started doing magic proactively, creating a lifetime legacy that would allow me to steer my life in the direction I wanted to go in and improve the overall quality and well-being of my experiences because they lined up with the desired outcome that I wanted to manifest.

The first couple of years that I did this practice, there were some shake-ups. I definitely brought some real changes into my life that caused some people to fall away, relationships to change, and circumstances in my life to go in a different direction. When I compare my life now to where I was back in 2017, I do see a clear progression where my life has gradually improved and moved in the right direction.

The long-term magic that I worked has produced incremental changes that have steered my life in the direction that I want to go in. I’ve found my community, developed deeper and more intimate relationships and changed my life to fall in line with what my true values and desires are. It involves some work and the magic has been part of that work. Yet when I look at my overall quality of life, I am much happier and content because I have chosen to create a life by design instead of waiting for life to happen to me.

That’s what my class Legacy Magic teaches you how to do. It walks you through the fundamental process of changing your magic from doing magic to solve problems to becoming magic and changing your identity to align with what your deepest desires and values are. I’m not promising that you’ll have overnight changes because that’s unrealistic. What I am sharing with you is a process that allows you to start doing magical work on a regular basis to produce specific outcomes in your life. These outcomes align your life with your ultimate desired outcome and set up circumstances and events and even connect you with people that can help you move your life in that direction.

When I think back to what my life was like before I took this approach to magic, what I recognized is how chaotic my life was. I would react to problems that came up, try to solve them with magic, and then continue on without really examining my own role in the situations that were coming up in my life. This is something that can be changed but it requires a long-term perspective and that’s what legacy magic teaches.

You learn how to create a legacy with your life that supports the direction you want your life to go in and helps you manifest the experiences, people, and overall quality of life that you want to create. Ask yourself where you will be 5, 10, 15, 20, 30 years down the line. That’s what this magical practice is for. It looks at the long-term picture instead of focusing on the immediate environment around you, so you can design your life on purpose.

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  • The art of creating long-term magical workings that continue to influence your life after the first ritual is complete.

  • How to use magic to build a life time of results, instead of one moment.

  • How to calibrate and improve your life and magic through long term magical work.

Legacy Magic is for practitioners who want their magic to mature from isolated acts into sustained influence.

Surrendering to the current: Power with, instead of power over in magical practices

It was 2017. I was burned out trying to make my business work and the credit cards debt were piling up. All the magic spells I cast felt like they were hitting a wall. No matter how hard I tried I couldn’t get reality to conform to my will.

I needed to do something different…and it started by changing my magical practice.

Long-term magical work requires a different mindset than what you’ll find in short-term will-based magic. Short-term will-based magical practice is about having power over the environment around you in order to create a result as quickly as possible. It operates from a place of reaction, where the focus is on trying to take back a sense of agency by controlling the environment around you. It is reactive magic.

Long-term magical work, in contrast, focuses on working with the environment around you as well as working on yourself. Its primary focus is on changing within in order to change what is around you.

When we change who we are on the inside, this opens the doors for possibilities to flow into our lives much more easily. We aren’t trying to fight reality or force the universe to conform to our will. Instead what we’re doing is aligning our identity with who we want to become, making the changes inwardly and then setting it up so that reality can more easily meet us where we are because we have already changed who we are.

Long-term or legacy magic is magical identity work. It is the ontological approach to magic, which emphasizes that changing who you are is more important than changing the environment around you. It acknowledges that when we change who we are, the environment around us changes as well.

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How Identity Work Applies to your Life

The easiest way that I can demonstrate this principle at work is to think about the people in your life. When you have changed who you are, chances are some of the people have dropped away because you’ve changed. This isn’t a reflection on you or them. It’s simply a fundamental transformation in the way that you relate to the world and the way that you relate to other people. When we change who we are, we also change the environment in our lives.

Another example that I can use is when you’ve changed your internal beliefs about yourself. When you’ve made those changes, chances are it has changed the opportunities that have come into your life and the way that you have responded to those opportunities. For instance, if you’ve held a limiting belief about yourself that you couldn’t do something, but you changed that limiting belief and you decided that you could, in fact, do it, this changes your reality. It changes your relationship with reality because you’ve changed your identity. What you’ve done is you’ve transformed your capabilities and so you’ve changed the way that you relate to the circumstances in your life. This opens up possibilities that would otherwise be closed away as long as you held on to that limiting belief.

I think it’s also important to recognize that it’s not just about changing a belief about who you are. It’s also about putting the necessary effort into learning new skills. I can have a limiting belief that says I can’t do this specific task and that will in and of itself stop me from doing the task. I may also not have the actual skillset involved. I could change the limiting belief that I can do this task but if I haven’t learned the skills then I will still need to acquire those skills. However I will be much more amendable to learning the skills because I now have the belief that I can do the task.

Identity Orientation Practice

In Identity Orientation you learn how to consciously shift from reacting as your current identity to responding as the identity you are cultivating in your life.

Step 1: Name the Identity

Choose an identity instead of an outcome.

Outcomes focus on external circumstances or act as a reaction to the change you want to create:

  • I want six figures.

  • I want to lose weight.

  • I want a relationship.

Notice that each of these outcomes is focused on a want, making them something external to who you are.

Try this instead:

  • I am a magician who consistently creates results.

  • I am a devoted partner.

  • I am an adventurous creator.

  • I am a financially responsible business owner.

  • I am a healthy, in shape athlete.

Outcomes are destinations you are trying to get to. When you apply identity as a magical you focus on becoming the outcome instead of striving for it.

Step 2: Identify the Organizing Values of the identity

Choose a specific identity, either rom the examples shared above, or an identity you genuinely want to become. Now, complete this sentence:

Someone with this identity naturally values...

List five to seven values that fit the identity. For example: A person who chooses to identify as a sovereign might value:

  • Presence

  • Responsibility

  • Trust

  • Initiative

  • Emotional regulation

  • Service

  • Honesty

These become the internal “rules” by which the identity organizes experience.

Continue reading the article to learn how you can apply this to your magical workings and spells.

Bringing this Back to Magic

I used those two examples to give you a very grounded understanding of how this ontological approach works. It’s not just limited to magic. It applies to any area of your life. Magic, however, is one of the best ways to actually design your life when it’s used as a proactive and strategic process for creating change. In previous articles I have shared the limits that I perceive will-based magic to have so I’m not going to recap them here. Instead, what I want to show you is how long-term magic can be used to design and sculpt your life in a way that allows you to align your desires with the reality and the environment that you’re living in.

In long-term magic the focus of the magical work is on practicing magic over an extended period of time. What that means is that instead of doing a spell in the moment for a specific short-term situation that you’re trying to get a result around what you do instead is you map out the way you want your life to unfold. By having a clear and concise picture of the life that you want to create, you can direct and steer your magical work toward achieving that life.

Naturally if you’re planning to do long-term magical work, one consideration is that your long-term goals may change. This is an inevitability simply because when we live our lives, situations will change. You may end up getting divorced or getting married or having some other kind of life event occur, or have an opportunity come your way that you never thought was possible that changes the course of your life. All of that is understandable and it could actually be argued that this is a result of doing long-term magical work because what you’ve done is you have created a very specific path in your life to achieve a long-term outcome. You are attracting potential events, situations, people, etc. that can help you accomplish that outcome.

Long-term magic operates on the principle that every change in your life ultimately moves in the direction of the outcome that you want to go to. Long-term magic is done every day, and becomes part of the background of your life, moving your life toward the outcome you’ve chosen. In a very real sense what long-term magic does is steer your life toward the outcome that you want to manifest. You are changed by the magic that you work even as the environment around you meets you through those changes.

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What long-term magic teaches us to do is also work with the environment. Instead of trying to have power over the environment, we actively work and collaborate with what is already present within us and around us in order to create the desired outcome. We surrender to the experience that is already present instead of trying to force it into conformity with what we want. And through that act of surrender we discover the opportunities that bring us into contact with the desired outcome, allowing it to manifest through the changes that have been made within ourselves as well as in conjunction with the environment around us.

This is different from Will-Based Magic, which tries to impose the will of the magician on the environment around them in order to create the outcome. What a long-term magician does is chart the path forward and then surrender to the journey itself, allowing it to take them where they need to go. The magical workings that they are doing are part of the journey. It helps to create the journey and manifest the outcome. In one sense the magician is on a river and what they are doing is paddling the boat at different times in order to help steer the direction that they are going in. The boat is being carried by the river itself. When the magician paddles, that’s when the magician is using magic or other skills to help paddle the boat in the direction that the magician wants to go in.

This approach to working magic emphasizes power with instead of power over. The magician isn’t trying to control the river; the magician is working with the river. The magician knows when to paddle and also knows when to stop. The magician knows when to draw on magic and when to stop. The magician allows time for results to fully settle into their ecosystem and identity, rather than constantly doing magical work to control the environment around them.

In my next article I’m going to explore the type of long-term magic that you can do. If you’re curious about getting started with this practice, I recommend checking out my class Legacy Magic, where I show you how to create long-term magical workings that you can use to transform your life by using magic as an expression of identity and creating a long-term vision and strategy that you hold to as the ultimate outcome for your life.

Enchanting for the long term: What happens when our magic focuses on legacy instead of short term results

In 2008 I walked in to Planned Parenthood and got a vascetomy. I didn’t want to have kids. It was a fateful choice, a declaration of the legacy of my life.

When you think of the word legacy, what first comes to mind? Do you think about future generations or what the impact of your choices will be on those down the line or do you think of something else altogether?

For me legacy is a really important word because I don’t have any kids and I never will have any kids. My legacy is my magical writing, my classes, my art, and my overall devotion to the evolution of magic as a discipline and practice. I first began thinking about legacy magic, or long-term magic, back in 2017.

I had an important realization that my approach to magic, which was will-based at the time, was not working the way I hoped it would. I was putting a lot of effort into getting results and sometimes I would get the results but I would also come away feeling exhausted. I was essentially trying to muscle my way through magical workings instead of taking an approach to magic that involved less forcing and more collaboration.

I was particularly exhausted in 2017 after a year of intensive magical work and other mundane efforts, which had ultimately resulted in a business that I was running crashing down and me burning out. Everything I had done to try and sustain it and make it work had failed. I had failed. I questioned everything that I knew about magic and I questioned whether or not I was even really a magician. It was a humbling moment that forced me to come face-to-face with my own limitations and it also helped me realize that I needed to find a better way to practice magic.

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The Flaw of Will Based Magic

I had actually been practicing long-term magic before 2017. I have an elemental balancing ritual that I do, which is a year-long working and in some cases has been two or three years long. This definitely would fall under longer-term magic because it’s a lot longer than what most magical workings are. Most magical workings are typically a once-and-done affair or a spell cast here, a spell cast there. Rarely is magic viewed from a sustainability perspective, in which it is worked with iteratively.

My elemental balancing rituals had taught me the power and presence of longer-term magic and how, when magic is worked with over an extended period of time, it both shapes and is shaped by the ongoing evolution of changes in the magician’s identity and in the way the working shows up in the magician’s life.

I learned that magic wasn’t always a one-way street, which is one of the fallacies of will-based magic. Will-based magic is power over magic. It is magic based on trying to have power over the environment, power over spirits, power over other things in order to achieve results. It’s a forceful way of approaching magical work. It shows up in a lot of Western magic, particularly from the 19th century on.

However this approach to magic is ultimately flawed because it focuses so much on exerting power over the environment, power over spirits, and power over other people and beings. It creates a tension in the magical work that inevitably creates a backfire for the magician. This is why many magicians who have approached magic in this way end up leading rather chaotic lives because they are continually trying to force their will on reality and causing a rebound effect to occur.

My own experiences in 2017 and really in other areas of my life pointed to this fact as well. I had found a pattern where I would get a result using will-based approaches to magic but then inevitably end up having to do more magical work in order to maintain that result.

What had really ended up happening is that I was continually trying to force reality into a specific shape that suited me instead of actually opening myself up to a communion with reality that was informed by curiosity, imagination, and discovery.

The weakness of this approach is that the more you try to force reality into a particular shape, the more it actually resists that and pushes back against you. This can lead to the chaos that I mentioned earlier as well as an experience of burnout with magic because the magician is always trying to force results into place instead of working organically with reality to create a shared and collaborative experience that allows results to naturally occur.

Tracking Your Magic Exercise

Much of twentieth-century occultism inherited an implicit model of will from industrialism: the stronger the will, the greater the result. Will became analogous to horsepower as a finite resource that you can direct against resistant reality.

If you observe practitioners (including yourself) over years rather than reading their theories, a different pattern appears. Burnout rarely comes from “doing too much magic.” It comes from using will as a technology of control rather than a process of relationship.

One of the best ways to understand the burnout effect of Will based Magic is through the following exercise.

Go through your magical journals and pick out 2-3 spells/workings you did that you might identify as will based magic.

See if these patterns fit those workings:

  • Everything depends on my will - with this pattern everything about the magical spell becomes personal. Every setback is treated as evidence that you didn’t visualize well enough, ritualize enough, focus enough or believe enough.

  • Constant energetic tension - Power-over magic creates chronic muscular contraction on the physical, mental, emotional and energetic body of the magician. You never stop holding the spell and so you never let it fully land in your being.

  • Every obstacle becomes an enemy - Will based magic creates adversarial perception that focuses on overcoming resistance instead of cultivating curiosity. Are you fighting the world with your magic or creating a relationship with it?

  • More Power is needed - When force doesn’t work, apply more force. Will based magic tries to force the outcome into place instead of creating harmony with the outcome.

Review your magical workings to see if any of these patterns fit your spell work. If so, you may want to change you relationship your Will, specifically how you apply it to your magical work.

Instead of taking the approach:

“I will make reality conform to my will.”

Change your approach to:

“I will organize myself so that this possibility has the greatest opportunity to emerge.”

This changes everything about your magic.

Your magic becomes:

  • orientation instead of pressure

  • participation instead of domination

  • listening instead of constant assertion

  • adaptation instead of escalation

  • stewardship instead of ownership

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From Will to Legacy

In light of what had happened in 2017, I evaluated how I practiced magic and came to the conclusion that I needed to take an approach that was informed by the conscious decision to surrender to the experience of the magic. I allowed it to show up in my life in a way that shaped me as much as it shaped the environment. Instead of just focusing on externally shaping the environment around me, I started to explore how the magic shaped my identity as well as the environment and how it created a shared consensual experience.

This approach to magic flew in the face of conventional Western wisdom about how magic works. Yet nonetheless it made a lot of sense. The more I dove into it, the more I began to see that this was a particular trait of Western magic as opposed to other magical experiences. My studies in the esoteric practices of Taoism and Dzogchen had already shown this to me to some degree because the approaches of those two respective schools of thought and practice demonstrated a willingness to let go of being in control and created a focus on the harmonization with nature. Additionally I had some experience with indigenous practices that I had learned and those practices also pointed to the same conclusion. Magic that is done to collaborate with reality is more effective than will-based magic.

However what I didn’t have was an approach that was based in my own background of Western magic that actually allowed me to create a similar harmonization and collaboration with the environment around me. I realized that I needed to develop my own practice for long-term magic. The elemental balancing ritual was the seed for the long-term magical work, but I needed something else as well.

I started studying with R.J. Stewart. I’d taken a few of his classes but I was drawn in particular to the Sphere of Art, which was a practice that was partially derived from his studies with William G. Gray. I had read William G. Gray’s works and been heavily influenced in my magical practice by how Gray framed magic and explored its workings. Gray, in my mind, was one of the original magical experimenters in that he rigorously tested and explored what magic could do. He did it from a perspective that was significantly different from the will-based approach to magic that was being espoused by so many other Western magicians at the time he was alive.

Studying the Sphere of Art under R.J. Stewart proved to be very helpful. It meshed with my existing system of space-time magic. It also fit within the container of my studies around William G. Gray’s works. I found that I could apply my martial arts studies and Taoist magical practices into the system which was significant because it allowed me to integrate my inner alchemical body work into the long-term magic as well. I adapted the sphere of art to fit my own particular system of magic and used it as a way to create a system of long-term magical work that was focused on designing my life proactively instead of using magic to reactively try to solve problems.

The majority of spells, sigils, and magic techniques focus on solving problems in the short run. A long-term approach to magic actively sculpts and shapes the design of your life in order to create a particular outcome. When you focus on legacy or long-term magic, what you’re doing is you’re asking yourself, “How can I shape my life using magic in a process that is repetitive but creates a significantly easier path of manifestation?”

When I started practicing magic by design, creating a long-term vision for how I wanted my life to manifest, it changed the way that I practiced magic. I focused less on solving the immediate problems and more on identifying what within myself needed to change in order to align with the ideal reality I wanted to create for myself. This exploration naturally brought a lot of change into my life because in questioning how my life was in the moment, I began to see what wasn’t working and I identified where I needed to change myself to design a better life. I ended up leaving a lot of things that weren’t working in my life behind so that I could create a life that brought me a deeper sense of contentment and happiness than I had ever experienced before.

I share that because when you start to practice long-term magic, you will naturally end up questioning the direction your life is going, and it may require significant changes to who you are. Long-term magic is inner alchemical magic, because it requires you to become the most honest person with yourself. That necessarily means that you are going to shed everything in your life where you are being dishonest with yourself and other people.

It is a path of surrender instead of forcing, discovery through curiosity instead of domination through will.

In the next article we’re going to explore this path in more depth to understand how it can be applied to practical magic.

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Slow Magic with Anthony Rella - A contrarian take on how to change your life with magic

Anthony Rella and I explored the topic of Slow Magic (or Long Term Magic) in this episode.

If you’ve ever felt burned out with magic, or gotten a result and watched it slip away or felt like you are pushing a boulder up a hill when it comes to manifesting something you want, this episode offers a different on how to create results with your magic.

We covered the following topics:

  • What happens when will-based magic fails and why it fails.

  • The difference between Slow Magic and will-based magic.

  • How to Recognize Spiritual Burnout and what you can do to receive your magic.

  • How to apply Slow Magic as a magical practice to your life.

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A Strategic Lens with Magic -

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In my previous article, I talked about the importance of taking a 2X approach to magic instead of a 10X approach to magic. One of the reasons that I take this approach is that I am applying a strategic lens to the magical work that I am doing as it applies to my overall life.

For many people, magic is reactive. They apply magic in the moment to fix a problem that has arisen in their life or to trigger a short-term reaction that helps them reach a desired result. What is not often applied is a strategic lens that examines what the consequences of achieving that result will be or how achieving the result will affect you down the line. This lack of foresight or planning can often create unintended effects that cause you to scramble in your life. You may end up doing more magic in order to resolve the consequences that have occurred because you didn’t take the time to fully map out what you really wanted, not just in the short term, but for the long term.

Magic never happens in a void. It is always situational, based on the context of our lives and the events, people, and places that are present. Yet although it is situational and based on the context of the moment, we can still apply magic with a long-term lens that helps us design our lives.

An Exercise in Long Term Planning

I want you to imagine, as an exercise, yourself as an old person. You're on your deathbed. What kind of experiences has that person had? What kind of life has that person led?

If you were to ask that person a question, one of the best questions that you could ask is: "What is it that you want me to do that you wish you had done?" This question creates a very intentional awareness of your life that prompts you to explore what you actually want for yourself, not just in the short term but for your overall life. For instance, do you want to live in a home that you purchased? If so, that's a long-term decision.

Putting the mortgage payments aside, One of the things that you may want to think about with that home is how long you would want to live there and what you would need to do in order to make sure that that home is livable as you get older.

A strategic approach to magic looks at how magic can be applied to help you achieve the outcome that you want while also considering the variables that are inevitably going to occur in your life, such as getting older. Although we can never know the full extent of how our lives will unfold, what we can do is apply strategic planning to our lives in order to create the desired outcome we want to live.

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Why we don’t think of the long term

The reason many people don’t focus on the long-term application of magic is because they’re focused on the here and now. It makes sense because that’s what we’re living with. We’re living in the here and now, but the reality is you’re likely going to get older. You’re likely to have changes in your life that affect your ability to do certain things, and you also want to think about your future not just in terms of ease and comfort but in terms of the overall quality of your life.

The lack of a strategic lens in Magic is reflective of the lack of a strategic lens in your overall life. Many people live paycheck to paycheck and in all fairness a lot of this is because the standard of living and the cost of being able to afford things is pretty high. Nonetheless, one of the things that a person can do is choose to save some money. Even if you were to save $5 or $10 a month, each month, that is going to be that much more money that you have when you need it for down the line or if you have an emergency situation.

A similar approach to magic can be applied where you start creating the circumstances in your life that favor you for both the short-term and the long-term moments. This means that you can do magical work to help you achieve a short-term outcome and at the same time you can ask yourself how this will help you achieve a long-term outcome, such as more financial stability or a high quality of life even when you’re older.

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Long Term magic to build your legacy

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When my Magical Practice became Strategic

I didn’t always have a long-term perspective when it came to magical work. I did a lot of short-term magic, especially in my teenage years and 20s and early 30s. My main focus was on solving the immediate problem in front of me. This is something which is typical for a lot of people. What we see in front of us is the most pressing problem so that’s what we apply magic to.

I began to change my focus to the long term when I started to see how the choices I was making in the short term were nonetheless having an impact on my life down the line.

I realized that as long as I was making short-term decisions, I wasn’t effectively planning for the rest of my life. I knew that it was important to respond to the immediate situation but I began thinking about how that response would also play out in the long term.

What really brought this home for me was getting divorced in my early 40s and realizing that I was starting all over with my life. I couldn’t afford to make short-term decisions anymore. I needed to be thinking about what was going to happen to me down the line and what I was going to do to make sure that I took care of myself.

The truth I’ve also come to recognize is that even when I plan for the long-term strategy, there are going to be short-term experiences that will change what the plan is. This is true for all of us. You can plan for the long term and nonetheless have a variable enter into your life that changes the equation dynamically. For instance you meet somebody and that person changes the entire direction of your life because you choose to be with that person and you want to see where things will go. That can change your plan significantly.

The key approach that you want to take with long-term magic is that you consider the direction of your life and you plan for those variables. If someone comes into your life, for example, you ask yourself: Does this person match my values? Does this person fit in my life in the long term not just in the short term? This kind of thinking can seem a little bit cold and clinical but it’s really designed to get you to think very carefully about your choices, so that regardless of what happens you are taking care of yourself, your life and your legacy.

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Getting Real about how Magic(k) Works - How to enchant for incremental results

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The other day I read a couple of articles on Substack about how magic works. One article made the argument that magick doesn’t actually work like magic (i.e. Hollywood magic) and the other article explored why results de-manifest when you’re not fully able to let the results land in your identity. They were both good articles that laid out some of the problems that people around their magical practice:

  • Having unrealistic expectations how results

  • Internal disbelief that magic really works

  • A subconscious belief that you don’t deserve the result you want.

These are all valid reasons for why a result doesn’t land when you do a magical working. What the reasons really are, though, are symptoms of a deeper narrative around magic and the practitioner that hasn’t been fully explored or understood. Dealing with the symptom can help you in the short term, but it won’t address the long term reality that needs to be changed your relationship with magic.

What is the deeper narrative?

The deeper narrative is the set of beliefs that you have about yourself and magic that tells you what is or isn’t possible. It’s the set point you have within yourself, as well, that creates the relationship pattern you have with:

  • Money

  • Success

  • Love

  • Opportunity

  • and other various variables in your life.

The set points that you carry within you create the limits and parameters that you and your magic operate in. If you aren’t aware of those set points and their influence on you, then when you do magical working that takes you outside of those parameters, identity-wise, that part of you will react and bring you back home, because the set point is familiar and feels safe. It may not be serving what you want, but it serves the part of you that doesn’t want to get hurt, rejected or lose everything.

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The 10X problem

Have you ever been given the advice to 10X your goals?

On the surface it seems like good advice. Go big or go home. The reality is that 10x-ing your goals, as appealing as it may sound, actually creates a rebound effect on your results. You go big AND you go home to your set points. The reason is because you’re reaching too far, too quickly, and that causes the result to rebound, if you are not ready to receive the results. It basically is a system shock and when your system is shocked, it fights back and reverts to homeostasis, because that’s what it knows.

Instead of 10xing your goals, trying 2xing your goals. I know it doesn’t as glamorous, but it’s achievable and it has a hidden benefit. It allows you to adjust your set point incrementally without creating resistance to the desired outcome. A 2x goals is something you can achieve with your magic and your life and you’ll adjust to it. And once you achieve the 2x goal, you can move the goal again, 2xing again and again, gradually moving your set point and increasing your overall bandwidth and capacity to receive and integrate the result.

Incremental change isn’t very dramatic, but it is a sure sign that your magic is working and transforming your life. It enables you to trust yourself as well, because every part of you readily accepts and embraces the change as something natural.  You become acclimated to the change and it becomes your new set point, transforming the way you experience yourself and the world.

Are there ever exceptions to this rule?

There is an exception to the set point, of a sort. When you are already going through a period of upheaval, such as a tower moment, the usual rules go out the window. Your set points are already disrupted, which makes it easier to manifest and keep results that fall outside the normal capacity and tolerance you have of change. For instance, if you get divorced, the tower of your life is falling apart and so your tolerance of change is greatly increased. You have nothing stable to cling and change is the only way you will get back to any stability.

A tower moment can be a  useful experience for doing magic for improbable results, because you have more freedom to turn those results into reality. Your limits are stretched and your set points are open to being recalibrated. You can do magic for improbable results and have it land without the usual resistance and pushback you would otherwise get.

A tower moment is an ideal time to create radical change. If you’ve been wanting to move to a new part of the country or take a risk on a career change and your life is already in a place of upheaval, its the perfect opportunity to take the risk. It’s a calculated risk, because you are using the existing transformation and upheaval to fuel your magic and change your capacity to receive the results.

I don’t recommend this though as a strategy for long term change. In the moment it works. In the long run, it can burn you out. If you want long term success, the incremental approach is best, when paired up with long term/legacy magic. In future posts, I’ll be sharing more about long term/legacy magic and how you can apply it to design your magical life.

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Why we need ritual with magic: A reflection on what ritual brings to our body and being

Summer Solstice 2026

It was hot and bright day out, the kind of day that perfectly fits the Summer Solstice. It was close to noon. I got up from my computer and started collecting the materials I needed for my impromptu Solstice day ritual.

It had been a little while since I had done a proper magical ritual. I cast spells and do workings, but I don’t always add the formal ritual to those workings. But it had been awhile and I felt a deep longing for ritual burn with me. Today deserved something formalized for the sake of what I was calling in and for myself.

I pulled out a box of crayons and a small square piece of paper. I grabbed my rod, my drum and its beater and I went outside to my backyard.

I set everything on the ground other than my rod. I paced a circle calling in the directions, elements and spirits. I got close to the ground and called in mama. I raised my rod to the sky and called in the cosmos. I called in the Sun in all its forms and names that I know.

After setting the space and the time, I sat on the ground and I colored my own representation of the sun. Once I was done, I stood up and held my little sun to the sky and asked THE Sun if it would grant a bit of its light so I could keep that light for the winter Solstice to help the sun begin its journey back from the long night. Then I beat a drum as I walked in a circle and I did an impromptu chant as an offering to the sun.

I closed the ritual and thanked the spirits, the sun, the land and then I put my drawing into my ritual box. And afterwards I thought to myself, I really needed this.

Why we need ritual

I talk a lot about practical magic. I’ve developed my fair share of practical magic techniques and for the most part they don’t require ritual. They require focused attention, and ritual can be one way to accomplish that, but there are other ways as well.

Yet there is something to ritual that is essential to the lived experience of being a human. Ritual gets us out of our heads, into our bodies, and connected to something deeper and wider than all of us.

I don’t do formal ritual all of the time. I reserve it for specific occasions or when it feels called for. I can’t deny though how it lands in me. There’s a reason we crave ritual, in general. Ritual provides meaning and connection in a world that often feels disconnected.

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Tower Time is officially available!

When the Tower falls, a magician is forged.

You didn’t come to this path to stay safe. You came to wake up.

Tower moments are initiations that tear through your life without warning, but they are not mistakes or punishments. They are thresholds. And every serious practitioner of magic must pass through them.

In Tower Time: Turn Crisis into Catalyst with Practical Magic for Radical Change magicians Taylor Ellwood and Sheena Witter hand you the keys to navigating collapse as a crucible of magical development. This book is a tactical guide for transforming crisis into power, rooted in decades of lived experience, shadow and somatic work, and practical sorcery.

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What stops people from doing ritual

I think what stops people from doing ritual is the perception that ritual is complicated. And certainly it can be complicated, but it doesn’t have to be.

I didn’t get dressed in a fancy outfit or pull out a bunch of ritual bling for my solstice ritual. I brought exactly what I needed and nothing more. And I brought one other essential element: My presence.

When I do a ritual, the phone stays out of the circle. When I do a ritual, the focus is on the ritual itself and whoever I’m doing the ritual with. I give myself over to the ritual and that creates the magic of the ritual.

The effect it has on my body and being is really fascinating because there is this felt sense of relaxation that comes through as I do the ritual. The ritual creates an intimate connection between myself and what is called in. There is presence and energy that lands through the entire space of the ritual.

The next time you decide to incorporate ritual into your magic, keep it simple. The focus isn’t on all the objects. It’s on using what’s needed to make the contact come alive. Every gesture, every word, and every tool serves the purpose of ritual. Anything that doesn’t serve the purpose is extraneous and unneeded.

Conclusion

I beat the drum and I came up with words in the moment praising both the sun and the dark. The words weren’t planned. I just knew they were the right words. I let the ritual work through me and I trusted what it brought me.

It brought me to the Sun. It brought me to the Dark. It brought me to the union of all things and in the process it brought me to myself. The best rituals do that. They bring you back to the self that you didn’t even know you were out of touch with.

There are no shortcuts in magic (or in life)

Every so often I get requests where a person asks me to help them obtain special powers through magic. In this episode of the magical experiments podcast I lay down the hard truth that there are no short cuts in magic and life and share some of my experiences and stories learning this truth. You’ll also learn why experience is the best teacher and how to let go of unrealistic expectations.

Magical Experiments podcast: My Work with Celestial Magic

Have you ever wondered what the benefits of working with a given astrological system could be for your magical work? Or have you wanted to do more work with celestial magic but asked how you could do it?

In this episode I share some of my own experiences with Celestial magic, including how I work with astrological currents, as well as the magic of the planets and stars.