intention

Hot takes on shame, shadow & the magic of desires

If you’ve ever felt conflicted about your desire, or felt like you wanted something and yet found some way to sabotage it, you’re going to want to watch this episode of the Magical Experiments podcast.

Sheena and I share 15 hot takes on shame, shadow and the magic of desire and along the way explore:

  • How shame and fear can small you and contain your magic.

  • What love and loathing have to do with identifying your desires.

  • How to use the deadly sins as information instead of as shaming.

And if what we shares lands with you, then you’ll want to join us for our upcoming live workshop on September 19th:

Wanting without Shame - Alchemize your desire into Reality

In Wanting without Shame, we work with desire as magical material.

Desire is not just a personal preference.

Desire is orientation.

It is the current beneath intention, ritual, spellcraft, spirit work, creative work, business, visibility, money, pleasure, devotion, and becoming.

In Wanting Without Shame, we invite you to come play so you can:

  • Clarify the desire underneath your magical intentions, instead of casting from obligation, confusion, or “should.”

  • Identify the old selves that distort what you think you want: the self other people imagine you to be, the past self still running old spells, the idealized self chasing comparison, and the present self who can actually cast.

  • Work with shame, shadow, envy, greed, pride, lust, wrath, sloth, and hunger as information instead of contamination.

  • Use Love and Loathe tracking as magical data for your practice, business, relationships, rituals, offerings, and creative life.

  • Create Desire Statements that function as magical source code for spellwork, spirit petitions, sigils, business direction, offerings, and life choices.


Turn your desires into reality clearly and cleanly.

Fuzzy Intentions = Unclear Results

I want you to take a moment and think about a magical working that you did where the result you achieved wasn’t quite what you wanted. You did the magic spell or ritual exactly as it was written, or maybe you pulled together a working of your own, but regardless of how you went about it, the outcome just didn’t quite land the way you hoped it would.

This happens more often than you might think. It’s happened to both of us and it’s happened to other experienced magicians as well. The question is…why does it happen?

One of the causes that we’ve discovered with results that don’t quite manifest the way you anticipated is because the intention for the magic isn’t well defined. When the intention isn’t clear it leads to unclear results.

For instance, if you have a statement of intention that is overly broad, it creates a situation where any result that fits within that intention is acceptable. However, getting any result that fits within the intention may not actually be what you want. Similarly, if you’re an entrepreneur or small business owner you know that anyone is not your ideal client. If you are asked who your ideal client is and you say anyone, you aren’t actually giving the person who asked a concrete answer. What you’ve provided is a fuzzy answer and no one can do anything with an answer like that, because it’s too broad!

The obvious solution is to get more specific about your intention. If you are more specific with your intention, that typically brings more clarity. But as we shared with our previous article, getting more specific doesn’t always lead to the result you want to create.

Still, there’s something significant about the initial choice to avoid getting specific. The tendency to avoid specificity in your intention can be a symptom of what really needs to be addressed, both in your magical work and your relationship with your desires.

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Getting what you want means getting witnessed by what you want

We want what we want. Your desire isn’t something that can be turned off. It can be repressed and pushed down and ignored, but at some point, your desire will make itself known.

When you are unclear with your intentions around a desire it can be a signal that there’s something worth exploring around the desire itself. Maybe you’re feeling conflicted about the desire or maybe there’s some part of you that says you shouldn’t want whatever it is you want. We certainly get enough contradictory messaging in our lives from the people around us and some of that imprints on us, until we deal with the messaging decisively.

The reason a lot of desires come out sideways is that your internal critic has tried to shut the desire down. It hasn’t worked, but your desire doesn’t try to face the critic head on, usually because the critic is mirrored externally by people in your life or situations where you’re trying to to fit in and be accepted and approved of. Your desire comes out side ways and one of the ways it can do that is through your magical work.

So, you have something you really want and you decide to cast a magical spell for it. But some part of you hesitates, and what you come up with is a broad intention. That can actually be your desire coming out sideways, because what you think you want isn’t actually what you want. The magic spell you cast will make it evident that something if off and the result you get will bring something of what you want, without giving you all of it.

For September’s Alchemy Lab, we are going into this directly.

Intention Alchemy Lab

How do I know if I have a clear intention?

Thursday, September 10th
6:30 PM PT / 9:30 PM ET

In this Lab, we are going to explore how to tell whether your intention is actually clear, or whether something underneath it needs attention first.

A clear intention sits at the meeting place of desire, body, shadow, choice, and action.

We’ll work with three short experiments.

Bring one intention you are currently working with, or one area of your magic, business, creativity, relationships, money, spirit work, or life that feels muddy. We will listen beneath the first answer and see what else is there.

Then we will work with the body as a truth-sensor. A split intention often has a somatic signature: fog, collapse, numbness, throat constriction, restlessness, over-explaining, or the sudden need to convince yourself. A clearer intention may still be intense, but it has more coherence. It feels like something the body can stand behind, even if your ego is sweating or throwing a tantrum.

Finally, we will map the interference. When an intention is not clear, something is usually mucking up the works. It may be a competing desire, an old vow, a shame pattern, a fear of consequence, a shadow desire, or a part of you that benefits from the spell never fully working.

The interference is not always the enemy. Sometimes, it is information we need to fully step into our power as sovereign magicians.

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This also flows into our upcoming September Workshop.

This Alchemy Lab is the perfect lead-in to our upcoming Magical Experiments class:

Wanting Without Shame

Desire Play for Magicians and Magical Creators

In the Alchemy Lab, we focus on intention: how to clarify it, how to feel whether it is coherent, and how to notice what blocks it.

In Wanting Without Shame, we go deeper into desire itself.

Because before you can cast clearly, you have to want clearly.

We will explore desire as a magical current, shadow material, body wisdom, business fuel, and creative force. We will look at the old selves that distort what we think we want, the desires we have been trained to hide, and the difference between casting from truth and casting from shame, obligation, or spiritual politeness.

For those of you building magical businesses, creating offerings, writing, teaching, reading, healing, making art, or trying to bring your magic into the material world, this is especially potent. Your business desires matter. Your creative desires matter. Your money desires matter. Your visibility desires matter. Your pleasure, rest, power, devotion, hunger, and ambition all belong in the room.

Magic Circle members receive 25% off Wanting Without Shame!

So this is a beautiful time to jump in with us.

Join us first for our Intention Alchemy Lab on September 10th, where we workshop our intentions together and explore what gets in the way.

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Then join us in Wanting Without Shame, where we go deeper into the desire beneath the intention and learn how to work with wanting as magical material (and save 25% if you’re a member of the Magic Circle!)

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What happens when you limit your intention

A few weeks ago I was at a psychic fair offering divination readings.

On the first day I was setting up my booth, when the organizer of the event did a pre-event circle to set the intention of the event. Whenever I attend a metaphysical or psychic fair the pre-event circle is used to help all of us connect with each other and get ready for a fun day of readings, connections and community.

What stood out to me about this particular experience was how the organizer wrapped up the event invocation with a specific intention. The intention was:

May the people who come to us today get exactly what they require

I chanted this phrase with everyone else and didn’t think much of it at the time, but that day proved to be a very slow day with only a couple of readings. As I drove home, I reflected on the day’s events, trying to figure out why I had gotten so few readings and it came to me that perhaps the reason was the group intention.

People were only getting what they required. It seemed like such a limiting intentional and not nearly as beneficial to them or the readers.

I decided to conduct an intention experiment the next day to see if I could get better results with readings and the overall experience at the fair.

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An experiment with wording and deliberate intention

The next day I arrived at the metaphysical fair and just like the day before, the organizer asked all of us to circle up so we could cast our intention for the day. And just like before she wanted to use the same phrase, “May the people who come to us today get exactly what they require.”

I didn’t chant that phrase on the second day. Instead I chose to say something else that embodied the intention I wanted to bring to the event.

“May the people who come us today get what they desire.”

It was a subtle change, but an important one. The word require felt limiting, for the people and for us as vendors. I didn’t want people to limit themselves to what they required. I would rather they get what they desired.

I made that phrase my statement of intent and said it while setting up my vendor space for the day. I circled around my space three times, quietly chanting it to myself. And then I got ready for my day.

Business that day was much better. I did 7 readings and sold a few books, as well. They day before I had only done two readings. I had changed my intention and it changed my experience as well as the energy of the space, for myself.

It also proved to be a valuable lesson about the words we choose and how they can create artificial limits that aren’t helpful. In the context of this event, the word require was overly limiting. People might get what they absolutely needed, but they likely wouldn’t get anything else. A requirement isn’t the same as a desire. A requirement focuses on what is needed or essential and in certain situations that can be really useful. It wasn’t useful though at a psychic fair.

By changing the statement and focusing the intent on desire, I created a space where people could choose to explore what they desired, as well as whatever they require. A desire isn’t the same as a requirement. You can want something without requiring it, yet often what we want points to a deeper need. I created an intentional space where people could explore what they desired and that opened the door for more prosperity to come in.

Curious to learn more about how this works and how you can apply it to your life?

Then you’ll want to join at our next live class, Wanting without Shame, on September 19th at 9:30 am PST.

Desire Play for Magicians and Magical Creators

In the Alchemy Lab (on September 10th), we focus on intention: how to clarify it, how to feel whether it is coherent, and how to notice what blocks it.

In Wanting Without Shame, we go deeper into desire itself.

Because before you can cast clearly, you have to want clearly.

We will explore desire as a:

  • magical current,

  • shadow material,

  • body wisdom,

  • business fuel,

  • and creative force.

We will look at the old selves that distort what we think we want, the desires we have been trained to hide, and the difference between casting from truth and casting from shame, obligation, or spiritual politeness.

For those of you building magical businesses, creating offerings, writing, teaching, reading, healing, making art, or trying to bring your magic into the material world, this is especially potent.

Your business desires matter. Your creative desires matter. Your money desires matter. Your visibility desires matter. Your pleasure, rest, power, devotion, hunger, and ambition all belong in the room.

✨ Ways to Support the Fire ✨

Our hearth grows brighter when you add your spark. Here’s how you can weave your magic with ours:

🔥 Comment & Share — Your questions, stories, and reflections feed the field. Passing our posts along brings new voices and Experimenters into our community.

🔥 Join Our Communal Wealth ExperimentContribute to Abundantia our Magical Experiments Community Wealth Spirit, a current of joyful reciprocity that fuels our work, delightfully returns to you, and ripples blessings back into our wider community.